What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 53
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Non-Monogamous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? No

The Black, the German and the Hot Red Head

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? J and I were in a relationship already. We met at work and eventually hooked up properly after I split with my girlfriend with whom I was living with in Germany.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were both curious about having a threesome, and I was happy to do it with my partner, MMF. It didn’t feel threatening at all. We even discussed who we would like to do it with while we were in the kitchen. Then J’s mobile buzzed, and it was the guy (D) we were talking about. It was a weird moment as she hadn’t heard from him for ages. He was an old lover from Germany, and she was towards the tail end of her dying marriage.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we finally arranged it, we went to a local bar first to get into the mood. J looked hot in her low cut red top, which cupped her fantastic tits. She also wore a short mini-skirt and high-heels and stockings. J is a red head and her hair was short at the time, but she looked sexy as hell with her lipstick, which was discreet rather than over the top. I think D and I would liked to have fucked her there and then. Later, we all walked back to the flat. J, D and I sat in the living room and I decided to put on a German porn video in the background which set the mood. We all had some more drinks and spoke for a while. I was getting horny and a little impatient as we were still talking and no one was prepared to make the first move.

Then I saw D put his hand on C’s thigh and stroke it gently. I was getting really turned on but then he stopped. I said to D in German “Fortsetzen bitte” which in English meant “continue please” which he did. He also did something that I thought was really cool and respectful. He asked J is she was sure that she wanted to go through this, but she was fine. So we walked to the bedroom.

D broke the ice by kissing J. This initially caused me to feel momentarily and surprisingly uncomfortable because I guess kissing is very intimate. But that was the trigger we needed as it turned into a fuck-feeding frenzy. J has a fantastic body. Athletic, well-toned with ample boobs and great ass. Her skin had a smattering of freckles and she looked really comfortable in her own skin. D and I worked on every part of J’s taught frame as we licked her pussy, kissed her, sucked her nipples, stroked her muscular thighs, playfully bit and slapped her tight ass, as she took it in turns to suck on our rock-hard cocks. D’s was small but a nice size. J was lithe so we turned her over and played with her some more. Fucking, sucking and fingering her, making her groan each time. One of our favourite recollections was of J on top of me while she sucked D off. Then we’d change positions. Sometimes J would simultaneously stroke our cocks like she was skiing, as we lay on our backs, taking turns to fallate us.

Then we’d switch positions. I’d take her doggy-style while she sucked D off while on his back. We swapped again while I lay on my back and D was pounding J from behind. As she took my cock in her mouth, she gave me this wicked “cat got the cream” smile. I loved the fact that someone I cared about was really enjoying herself. D and I would take breaks and I would watch him fuck her. Then I would take over from D as I fucked J as D would play with himself. We got off on the fact that we were being watched, which spurred us on.

We attempted DP later with J, which was fine and I did not feel uncomfortable with being so close with another man’s naked body. J was the centre of the attention and our sole aim was to pleasure her. It felt like she was set on fire as she moaned, intoxicated with pleasure.

We all climaxed (D came in her mouth, I came on J’s tits) apart from J, who still enjoyed the experience. I wondered why she didn’t because she usually does, but I think that was because she possibly had two of us to concentrate on and it was her first time. It was sensory overload.

When we finally finished four hours later, D and I stood stark-bollock naked and shook hands, which seemed like a bizarre comedy moment. He got dressed, kissed J and left afterwards.

J and I were still feeling horny so we fucked like rabbits on acid and she came several times. We we still living off the fumes of that experience for many days afterwards.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? J and I were horny for days. It felt like we’d been on a fantastic holiday in the sun. Every cell in our body was reanimated, and we seemed to glow for days I’m sure others could sense our enhanced sexual energy.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Various close friends over the years.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was like team-bonding, but with sex. It was an amazing experience. Given it was planned, it couldn’t have worked out any better. The fact that we were talking about D and the text came in at the same time felt like this was meant to happen. In the universe, there are no accidents!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. If anything, it confirmed my views about casual sex and how much fun it can be. It also taught me not to be precious.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would recommend you try it if you’re curious. Obviously, it has to be with the right people.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If done with honesty and integrity, casual sex can be a force for good. I, like many people, struggle with the concept of monogamy. It’s like western civilisation: It’s a nice idea, but I don’t believe it’s realistic. I think people need to get real about their relationship and sexual styles. If we did, I believe the world would be a much happier place.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a fantastic forum for people who feel bad about sex in general due to unrealistic societal pressure.

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