What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 58
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Johannesburg
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Automotive
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Mostly into men, besides my wife
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 37
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? A day ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? On a business trip to Malaysia. Went on Craigslist and searched M2M section and found a young guy’s post on being his first time. He just wanted to receive the pleasure so I replied to his ad. Met him last night at my hotel. He was cute, slightly curvy, 19 years old, Chinese.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Bought him dinner, had a little chat. He wasn’t quite into black men, probably just wanted to try something out with one. Stroked his thighs and placed my hand inside his shirt and rubbed around his nipples while at the cafe. I instigated.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Went to my room at night. I removed his clothes one by one. He was very shy. I sat him down on the bed while I removed my clothes. I placed his hand on my cock and asked him to feel it. He hesitated but did it slowly. I knelt down and took hold of his erected cock and sucked it. Loved it. About 7 inches. He came in my mouth and I swallowed. Then I stood up while he sat down. I pressed his head to my cock for him to suck. He did but not for long. Guess he didn’t enjoy it much, although I liked his body. Kissed and licked his ass. It was satisfying.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He left after that but I contacted him today to ask if he wanted to come over. Just wanted to give him a blowjob. A tasty young guy.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Making new friends, Boredom
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First time getting to taste a Chinese boy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He wasn’t very into it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? None
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? None
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like the stories.
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