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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Book Publishing
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Blame It On Bourbon Street

How long ago did this hookup happen? 21 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Kelly was about 5’8″, very slim, with short, blonde hair and she was in her mid-twenties. She was small-breasted, no more than an A-cup. She was very proud of her pierced belly button and would lift her shirt to show it to people at parties. We met at an academic conference in a small city in Louisiana. She was a graduate student and I was in my first publishing job I had taken after leaving a PhD program a year earlier. Because I was the same age as the graduate students at the conference, I spent most evenings after work was done drinking, dancing, and just hanging out with them. I spent time talking with Kelly, and we flirted a bit, but nothing happened at the conference. The conferenced ended on the morning of Halloween, and we discovered that we both planned to spend the night in New Orleans celebrating the holiday. I didn’t have a cell phone at this point, so we exchanged our hotel information for New Orleans and planned to meet up once we settled in town. I met up with her and a group of her classmates for dinner. Most of us had worn costumes. I was dressed as the Invisible Man. She just had a sash on over her clothes, so we joked about her half-assed costume. After that, we started roaming the French Quarter as a group. Her friends wanted to explore the gay side of Bourbon Street, so they found a gay local who was happy to act as a tour guide. At one bar, there was a man dancing on the bar in a thong/jockstrap with a huge penis visible through the fabric. The guide took a bunch of people from the group up to feel this guy’s cock as he danced, including Kelly. We all drank as we wandered and had a nice buzz, but no one was trashed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As we left the bar with the thong guy, Kelly grabbed my hand wrapped my arm around her stomach under her shirt. She told me that her friend had told her that she and I should hook up because we were both nerds. I didn’t quite know what to say. Then she said, let’s get lost, so we hung back and let the rest of the group move into the crowd on Bourbon Street without us. We held hands and walked a bit down the street when she asked if I thought she should start bartering for beads and I said sure. She approached some guys and asked for some beads. They asked what she would show for them and she said her belly ring. They laughed and said, no way, it had to be her tits. She turned to me and asked if I thought that was a fair trade. I said it was, so she said I had to be the one to lift her bra. I stood behind her, slid her shirt up, grabbed the bottom of her bra, and lifted both up to her neck, as the guys watched. We did this a bunch of times, and then she said it was my turn to start trading for beads. So I started flashing my dick for beads or tit flashes. At this point I hadn’t seen Kelly’s tits yet because I was always behind her, so I told her I’d give her beads to see her tits. She lifted her shirt, and after admiring her perky boobs and pink nipples, l leaned in and started making out with her and playing with her tits under her shirt in the middle of the street. She asked to see my dick, which I showed her. We went back to kissing as she slid her hand into my pants and started playing with my cock, still in the middle of Bourbon Street. We decided to walk back to my hotel, but she needed to pee first. We went back to a gay bar we’d been in before to use the bathroom. She said wanted to pee in the men’s room, but the stalls didn’t have doors, so I stood in front of her and she held on to my arms to steady herself as she peed, which I found incredibly hot. I’ve always had a thing for watching girls pee. We then made the long walk back to the hotel.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once in the hotel, we started making out and groping each other, but things seemed to have stalled out. I was a bit conflicted. I had just recently ended a six year relationship with my college girlfriend, who lived in New Orleans, and who I was supposed to meet for breakfast the following morning. I told this to Kelly and we decided to just go to bed. We both stripped to our underwear and got back in bed. We talked for a bit and were discussing scars. I had one on my lower stomach and I placed her hand there to feel it. She left her hand there for a few moments and then slowly slid it beneath the waistband of my underwear and started rubbing my cock. I reached over and slid my hand over her toned ass, pleasantly surprised she was wearing a thong. We quickly took off each other’s underwear. I sucked her tits and as she moaned I slid down to start licking her pussy. She stopped me and asked where I was expecting things to go. I told her that I didn’t have condom, so sex was out, but that I did want both of us to come. I went down on her and slid my fingers into her tight, wet pussy, listening as she moaned and pushed my face against her clit. She shuddered as she climaxed and pulled me up to kiss me. She grabbed my hard cock, stroking it as I rubbed her tits. She bent down and started giving me a blow job. As I got close to coming, I let her know. She lay down on her back and pressed her boobs together. I straddled her and slid my dick between her tits and quickly came. We laughed as we cleaned my come off of her and then went to bed.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We woke up the next morning and chatted with each other as if we weren’t virtual strangers sitting across from each other completely naked. I asked her if she wanted to do anything more this morning, but she had to get back to her friends. We took a shower together and washed each other, made out a little, but then we got dressed and went our separate ways. I got her email address, and then headed off to have breakfast with my ex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends about it. They were happy for me.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It had an incredibly long lead-up that involved a lot of my kinks: exhibitionism, voyeurism

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wasn’t in the right emotional state to be more carefree about it. I was too nervous to really let go.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have nothing against casual sex as long as both parties are enthusiastically involved, and emotionally and physically safe.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it, but many stories seem fake.

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