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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, Atlanta
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Attorney
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I have a slight preference for women but also enjoy sex with men.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 63
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Blowjob in the bookstore

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1979

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was in college, dating a highly sexual high school girl. She was sick with the flu and I was very horny. There were adult bookstores all over Atlanta in 1979. They all had a dark area in the back where you could watch porn movies (8mm, very grainy film) in a private booth (the movie was projected onto the wall of the booth.) You entered a booth, put a quarter in the slot, the movie played. You never knew what type of porn you were going to see. The entire scene was very seedy, which made it even hotter for me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I decided to go to a bookstore and watch some porn. There were no VCRs, DVDs, or Internet back then so adult bookstores and porn theatres were the only way to see porn. When I got to the bookstore, I was very horny and I had a huge hard on. I was wearing a warm-up jacket and pants, so my stiff cock was very visible under my warm up pants. The area where the movie booths were located was jammed full of guys. I’d never been to the bookstore that late at night before, and I figured they were all waiting for a booth to open. Business was good for the bookstore! I was so incredibly naive back then. I was 100% straight (I am now bisexual, leaning more toward women but enjoy men also). I did not know this was a hookup place for guys to suck and fuck with other guys. But I quickly found out that night.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? A booth opened up and I went in, put in my quarter, and gay porn started showing on the wall. I had seen gay porn before and found it a huge turn on. In this scene, one guy was fingering another, getting ready to fuck him. Then, a very nice looking, very well dressed guy walked into my booth. He was about my height, wore a sweater and nice pants, looked mid 30’s. I figured he wanted to share the booth as there were so many people waiting for one. Again, so naive. We started watching the porn, now the two actors in the movie were fucking and it was a very hot scene. The older guy in my booth started rubbing my cock through my warm pants, the next thing I knew, my pants were down and my very hard cock was down his throat. He gave me the best blowjob I’d ever had, I came really hard in his mouth and he swallowed. He then kissed me and asked me to fuck him. I politely said no to that request as it seemed way too gay at that moment. He was cool about my reluctance to fuck him and told me he would walk out of the booth first, then I should leave a few minutes later, for appearances.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was the first time I ever had gay sex so I felt a bit ashamed. I did not think of myself as gay, I had only dated and had sex with girls. I never saw that guy again, never got his name. But the blowjob was so good that many years later, after getting over the guilt and becoming much more evolved as a human being, I started engaging in gay sex again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend who was bisexual. He told me not to have sex with strangers in bookstores.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was my first gay sex experience, my first blowjob from a guy, my first time kissing a guy. Lots of firsts. And it was smoking hot due to the seediness of that bookstore and the nasty, grainy gay porn playing at the time he sucked me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt guilty afterwards that I engaged in gay sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, this was a pivotal sexual experience as it was my first gay sex and it showed me that gay sex can be way hotter than straight sex. I am now fully bisexual.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? After this random hookup, I returned many times to adult bookstores looking for a similar experience. However, I never had sex with anyone ever again in an adult bookstore or video booth. I’ve watched people have sex, I’ve masturbated for people, I gave a guy a partial hand job, but no oral sex and no fucking in bookstores.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, to me, it is like a hobby, no different than seeing a great movie, playing tennis or motorcycle riding. It is fun and always feels good. The trick is to never mix emotions with casual sex.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool – just found it today for the first time.

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