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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Ohio,USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Financial manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bi-curious, bi-playful, flexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Blowjobs For Rides

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? transactional

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was almost double my age being 39. He was an average looking guy, not terribly handsome but certainly not someone who would be described as ugly. He was about 6’1″, average build, brown hair, and brown eyes. I hate to admit but nothing really stood out about him. I met him at work and he was a nice enough guy, but I had zero interest in dating him much less having sex with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had this great new job that was important to me. Unfortunately I was living paycheck to paycheck, had zero money in savings, and even owed a couple relatives small amounts of money due to some things that happened prior to my getting this job. My lousy car ended up dying and could not afford to fix it or replace it. As I lived in a relatively small town there was not very good public transportation and I worked an odd shift. I asked to change my schedule to something more normal so I could ask friends for help but the manager declined my request. This guy I worked with passed where I lived going to and from work so I reluctantly asked him for rides. He said no, which surprised me and I thought that was just mean. I didn’t want to lose this job since I was making enough money that I would be able to get on my feet. So despite his dick move, I got him one on one and asked if I gave him gas money if he would let me ride with him. He again said no and added we already got up early enough and he didn’t want to add another few minutes to his routine in the morning. My being very sad and nervous at the prospect of losing my job and being homeless made me blurted out “what if I gave you a blowjob everyday you took me to and from work?” My co-worker responded and said what? I took a deep breath and calmly repeated myself. He smiled, chuckled, and said sure. So began our arrangement.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Every morning he would come to my apartment, come inside, and either stand by the door or sit in the one chair I had in my apartment. Either way I would get on my knees and give him a blowjob to completion and swallow his cum. After a while he started taking “payment” when dropping me off. This also led to him starting to cum on my face, “since you don’t have to worry about getting ready for work”. This also led to my going topless because I got tired of getting cum on my clothes and bras. This ended after approximately 6 months as he began demanding more, like wanting to have intercourse, and my finally having enough money saved to put a down payment on a car. I didn’t like what I was doing and felt bad about exchanging my dignity for rides to work. As for how I felt when actually blowing him, I just wanted to get it over with and have him cum. I hated even having to let him use me to cum. In regards to how he treated me, it was how you would expect. I was basically good for getting off and that was it. He didn’t necessarily treat me bad, but he also didn’t really do anything to treat me well. He would pretty much finish and either say let’s go if it was the morning or walk out with a see ya if it was after work.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was unhappy with myself every time I did this, which was quite a bit. By my rough estimation I blew this guy approximately 110 times. It disgusts me to think that I swallowed his cum or let him cum on my face upwards of 110 times. Despite this, and I can’t believe I’m going to say this, I’m glad I did it. That job let me dig myself out financially and laid the groundwork for what has turned out to be a very successful career, especially considering my lack of formal education or training. As for three specific individuals I don’t dislike them for taking me up on my offer. However I do dislike them for taking advantage of the situation as much as he could and manipulating a young, not very worldly at that point, girl.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told my husband as I felt the need to unburden. He was taken aback, but sympathetic.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I regret parts of it like doing things I really did not want to do.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It gave me financial stability and led to a very successful career.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Trading my dignity for what amounted to money and blowing someone I didn’t like and either swallowing their cum or taking a facial about 110 times.n

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m OK with casual sex if everyone is in agreement about what it is and what it means. In terms of the impact in my life it has been good and bad. I’ve had some incredibly fun, sexy, indulgent experiences and others that left me feeling like a cheap slut. Looking back though, I wouldn’t change anything. It all contributed to who I am today.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love that I can share my experiences. It might help some, turn on others, or give people perspective. I also find it cathartic in some instances.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!