by April


Gender: Female
Age: 32
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Seattle
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Department Head
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Booty Call’s End

How long ago did this hookup happen? Ended it Two Months Ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty Call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Don is a tall African American Man, about six years younger than me with black hair and a goatee. He is tall, muscular, and I found him handsome. He’s a lot bigger than me, but then again I am only 5 foot 3 so most men are.  
I had worked at the same company since I graduated college a decade prior. Don had about three years ago, it’s a large company and we work in different departments but we used to pass each other in the break room and say hi. I have always liked Latin and Black men and have hopped in bed with more than a few, my ex-husband was Mexican.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I need to set the stage here a bit as I feel my own sexual  and personal history factor in heavily. I am neither a prude nor a slut, but I have to admit I was pretty promiscuous and slutty in college.
For most of my 20s I was pretty heavy. Due to a thyroid condition I rapidly gained weight post college and weighed nearly two hundred and fifty pounds. However I suffered a health scare about two years ago and realized I needed to get in shape. My medication was switched and I was finally able to lose weight. I started working out and doing yoga and lost over 130 pounds. However a few months back I began weight lifting a great deal, I have developed very toned arms and thighs and even a bit of a six pack so my weight is back up. However I have noticed men looking at me more and there has been a lot more casual flirting, something I like. However before this I have to admit I was more confident and sure of myself when I was heavy.
I am also recently divorced. I met and fell in love with my ex-husband about six years ago. We were married three years but we struggled to start a family.  We found out he was infertile and would be unable to give me children, and I have always felt he blamed me for it. I decided after my health scare that maybe he wasn’t so good for me so I left him.
Since my divorce I had only taken one man home from the gym for what had been a night of bad sex. I hadn’t had sex in about six months when two girlfriends invited me out for the night. We went to a club and Don was there with a friend. His friend took a liking to my friend Sophie and they went off together. Despite the fact she is married she was looking to cheat and went home with him. Don was talking to my other friend for much of the night but looking at me most of the time. She would later tell me that Don was into me.  
We talked after my friend left. I was attracted to him but still nervous following my divorce and it took us a few weeks to get anywhere. He invited me to his place one night after work. Our company actually has a rather strict no fraternization policy but I am not sure how strictly this is enforced, I know of members of my own department sleeping together.  
I went to his place and he offered me some wine. We started kissing and making out and he took his shirt off and then unbuttoned my blouse. We moved to the couch and started making out and then I took my bra off. I made out topless and we were probably headed towards sex when his roommate came home and interrupted us. I was topless and very self-conscious of that fact and dressed quickly and left.
Two days later Don invited me over again and made very sure his roommate would not interrupt us this time. I arrived late, not really that dressed up but I had done my makeup. He answered the door without his shirt on, a clever tactic.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We worked our way towards the bedroom. There was a trail of clothes leading to his bed as we tore each other’s clothes off. He admired my body and complimented it several times, I had been working very hard on it so I liked this. He was kissing me and holding me and threw me on the bed. He tried to pin me but I am a bit stronger than he was used to so he never quite could. I was enjoying as we made out and he worked his way down kissing my neck and then massaging and kissing my breasts and then sucking my nipples for a few minutes. He then put a condom on and put his cock in me and rode me for a while, I am not sure how long as I was not watching the clock. We both orgasmed and laid there to rest but ended up falling asleep.
I awoke before him the next morning early, and smiled to myself and rubbed his hair a bit. I decided I wanted him awake and began to suck his cock. I mounted him as he came to and he put his hands on my hips and grabbed my ass a few times, we both orgasmed again. I then made up an excuse to go, got dressed and left.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We had discussed it and both recently tested clean. We used condoms that first time, something he said he always did the first time with women. I have also been on the pill since I was 17, other than when I was trying to start a family.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It had been a while and he was charming. He was also in the beginning at least willing to work with my terms

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A little wine here and there, not much.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to make it clear to Don while I really enjoyed the sex I was not in a place where I wanted a relationship which in the beginning he was ok with. We settled into a booty call arrangement, I would call him a few times a week, usually late when the mood struck me and I would go to his place and we would fuck. I usually avoided sleeping over but it was very late a few times and I was tired. I also visited during the day more than a few times on weekends and had him to my place a few times. I was really enjoying the regular sex, and have found I need it to function. At work we avoided each other.
This worked for about six months, but I have to admit looking back I think Don wanted a relationship with me. He began to get really possessive, texting me during the day and even got handsey a few times in the break room and put his arms around my waist. This was a big no-no but I still let it carry on a few more weeks. However one evening we had just fucked and he was in the bathroom talking on his cell while I relaxed and I heard him call me his girlfriend. That did it for me and I angrily confronted him and told him we were done.
Mostly now I am grateful to Don for getting me back out there sexually following my divorce. Since then though, I make it a point to avoid him at work since things are still a little awkward. As for the future, I am not planning on letting him near me.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate found out pretty quickly as I was doing the walk of shame when I got home. She was proud of me. Also told a few of my girlfriends who said I was a lot more pleasant since I was getting laid regularly.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For both of us very much. For me it was about the sex, and for Don I think it was as well plus he was thrilled to be banging a white woman.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A bit, with how controlling and possessive he got with me towards the end. I probably let it carry on too long. However I do not regret the sex.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? What was mostly great sex and on a regular basis. I also liked being wanted by a man again. Worst part was how it ended. What this has taught me is I may want to pick my booty calls a little more carefully in the future.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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