by Dan Taylor

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Washington, DC
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 24
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Booty, Honor, Country

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a junior at the military college I used to attend. He spent a lot of time in the gym and it showed. He was about 6’3″ and very muscular. I knew him only in his capacity as an upperclassmen and, being a freshman, we never truly had friendly interaction until I joined the debate team of which he was a member. We became more friendly, but not necessarily close, but I did find him very attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He offered to help me write debate cases and asked that I meet him in his company’s day room so we could talk. I knew he was gay, although he was not terribly open about it, so I went with the full intention of at least giving him head but hoped for more. While we were working on the case I was writing, I continued to move closer to him and casually touched him until it became clear I was being flirtatious. I suppose then I instigated it but he escalated it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started in earnest when I got fake exasperated and leaned all the way over and collapsed over his lap. I stroked his crotch and as I came back up, he leaned down and kissed me on my neck. We made out for a few minutes in the day room but, being as he was an upperclassman and this was a military college, we had to be more private if anything was to happen. He texted his roommate to make sure he’d stay in the library for a little while and we ran upstairs to his room. He pulled me on top of him on his bed and we very quickly started taking off our uniforms. After stripping down and making out, I went down on him. This was only the third cock I had ever sucked, but the best by far even to this day. He was obviously a little more experienced with guys and he was a little rough during my blowjob, which I really enjoyed. He held my head down on it and I took him all the way in my throat. I came off of him and we moved from the bed towards his desk, him leading me around by my cock. He went down on my while I sat in his desk chair and after a few minutes he reached into his desk and pulled out a box of condoms. He asked if I had done anal before and I told him I had but only once, but that I loved it. He bent me over the windowsill and fingered me to loosen up and put some lube on me. I remember only a few better feelings in my life than when he first entered me. I moaned uncontrollably and it was incredible. I was looking out the window from the fourth floor across our central area while getting fucked from behind. After some time, he pulled out and shoved me to my knees, pulling off the condom. I blew him for a few strokes and he came across my face, which I didn’t know I loved. It’s now a favorite thing of mine! I laid back on the bed while he used his mouth and hand to finish me off, and we laid down together for a good half hour before I cleaned up, got dressed, and left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We saw each other very often at practices and tournaments, and continued to hook up occasionally. We were never exclusive and both hooked up with other people at tournaments at other colleges. He didn’t mind me getting with other girls and guys and I didn’t mind him bringing back guys. We had sex about 20 times that year. In addition, sometimes while I was doing my freshman “duties” (laundry, trash, etc.) he would tell me to come to his room and my “duty” would be to give him a blowjob. We remained completely casual and friendly in public as well.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…), It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one; it isn’t cool to have gay sex in the military.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was fantastic, and it was convenient to keep doing it.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? How secret we had to be.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It solidified my bi-identity and made me feel somewhat sexier.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? So long as people are being safe, casual sex can be a great thing for self-discovery and fun. I don’t think anyone should ever be pressured to participate or should feel left out because they don’t, however.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like that it celebrates something needlessly shamed.

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