What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Fort Wayne, Indiana
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Submissive
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He had blue eyes, a full beard, was short, and slim. I didn’t know him at all before he came over. We met on a dating site, called Grindr. I saw the pictures that he sent me on Grindr and was instantly turned on. His body and cock were hot.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, I was horny and thought about having some sex. I scrolled through my options on Grindr, and that’s when I found and messaged him, LG. He sent me some pictures of his dick and body and I was instantly turned on. I invited him over and after that is when all the magic began.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Okay, so, he walked in (the door was unlocked) and I met him at my bedroom door. He was a lot shorter than I expected and a lot more slim than I imagined. But he was still hot and a bit on the adorable side, too. He started to kiss me, very passionately, which was unexpected. I was nervous to kiss him. So I kissed his neck instead. Then we both took off our clothes. I moved down to suck his dick until he was hard, then I laid on my back.
Oddly, during this whole time, I didn’t feel as awkward or weird as I do in usual hook-ups. He had a good way at making me feel comfortable. He stuck his dick in me and started going in slow. Mind you, his dick was pretty big, but I was a champ.
We started to go at it for about 30 minutes straight. Going slow and passionate, the speeding it up to a more fast and rough pace. I had a dildo on the night stand. He grabbed it and stuck it in me with his dick in me as well. I told him to stop because it hurt, but he kept going and eventually after both the dildo and his cock were in me, he asked if I still wanted him to stop. I said nothing, because honestly, I didn’t want him to.
He sat on his knees with me on top of him, riding him slowly as we kissed tenderly. We never met before this night but for some reason, our connection felt as though we had, many times before. Anyway, eventually he came (on my stomach), then we sat on my bed for a bit to “come back to reality” and as he was putting on his clothes, he started to make conversation.
We talked about music festivals and he asked me if I was spiritual and he introduced me to some new music. He behaved very well, he was a very good lover. He left after we had our mini discussion, and the next morning we chatted a bit through text about how amazing we made each other feel, and how we should re-connect again sometime. It was an amazing experience.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Honestly, I am glad for what it was, which was a one-night stand. He was sweet and nice and a really good fuck, and I wouldn’t mind having his cock all the time, but I think some encounters are meant to be temporary, and that’s all it was. I feel that he is a good memory/story to tell.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, yet.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The unexpectedness of it and the great turn-out of it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it didn’t last for longer.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I now understand to never settle for anything less than the fuck I had last night.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Yes, never fuck anyone who isn’t sexy or desirable. It’ll be a waste of time, note to self.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like sex and think it’s a natural form of connecting with other human beings. What’s important is how you go about it. If you use sex like it’s a drug, then sex becomes something negative. But if you participate in sex as to have a good time and be adventurous, then I think sex turns into something positive. I think that people need to explore their sexual side more often, with more than one person, to gain new knowledge on their own sexuality, plus the sexuality of someone completely new. Society needs to have a more open minded few when considering sex. That’s all.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a good spot for people who are open with their sexuality can go and talk and not feel weird. I like it.
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