Current location: Columbus, OH
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Personal Trainer/Physical Therapist
Relationship status: In A Committed one
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bisexual with a preference for men
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One
How long ago did this hookup happen? A Year
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Sex with an ex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Brandi is a short brunette, only five two, about the same age as me. We met around fourteen years ago at a lesbian bar and were together six years when I was in my late twenties and early thirties. We had loved each other once and even talked about getting married but back then there was no gay marriage, and there is still not in my state. Maybe if there had been we might still be together. I hadn’t seen her in seven years when I ran into her by chance. I should also point out that Brandi is a straight lesbian and not bisexual like myself.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As I said Brandi and I were together six years and the breakup had been hard on both me and my son. I won’t go into a lot of detail but I hadn’t seen her in years since shortly after the breakup.
Chance brought us back together. I was single at the time, I am a lot of things but I am not a cheater, I work as both a personal trainer and physical therapist and was working at a hospital, Brandi is a paramedic, when Brandi came in and we happened to run into each other. We decided to after her shift grab coffee.
We grabbed coffee and caught up. I learned she had been living out of state and had only recently returned to Columbus. She had been married to another woman and had a kid with her partner, something we had talked about doing. Catching up turned into flirting which rather quickly turned into a hotel room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was all pretty standard sex. We made out for a bit and clothes came off. Her body was a lot different, she was rounder and her breasts were a bit bigger and all together she was about thirty pounds or so heavier than when we had been together. She had a kid about a year before. It had been years but we were still two people very familiar with each other’s likes and tastes when it comes to sex.
We laid down on the bed and Brandi sucked my breasts for a bit before giving me oral until I had an orgasm.
I did the same for her and Brandi too had an orgasm and afterwards we cuddled for a while before dressing and going our separate ways.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both did.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t which was a little foolish.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wanted to and found I was still quite attracted to Brandi.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No, Brandi comes from a family of alcoholics and never drinks.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Brandi and I talked a few more times, and considered getting back together. However we decided since we both have children and how hard the first breakup was on my son we decided against it. I have seen her around a few times but have kept my distance.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told one friend who was never really a fan of Brandi and she didn’t think us hooking up was a good idea.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes for us both
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A little bit, some feelings did come back
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having sex and reconnecting with someone I once really cared about. Worst part was feelings coming back a bit and being able to do nothing about it. I don’t think this one changed how I feel about casual sex other than I do feel there is no such thing with an ex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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