What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Texas
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? manager of a clothing store
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? :/
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Breaking My Celibacy Interracially
How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met from Craigslist as I never do this kind of thing, was bored and figured I’d try it out. He responded to my email after I read his ad. Interestingly enough, his ad had nothing about sex and was just looking for someone to hang out with, which is why I initially emailed him. We exchanged numbers through email, and went from there. We met two days after texting and talking on the phone. I was nervous because I’m never this spontaneous, plus craigslist kinda scares me. Hah. We met in a public location and we both sat in our cars and made conversation with our windows down for a while. He suggested going to a more private place. I got in his car, he drove to a more private place. We talked and talked for an hour, and then we started kissing and making out. We kissed off and on for about 30 minutes, and each time sent chills throughout my body. He was, 5’7″ black hair, dark hazel eyes, tanned dark skin, shy, intelligent, and honestly not usually the type I would go for.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I woke up one morning and texted him hi, and he responded immediately. He told me to come over to his place. I did not think this was a good idea considering the circumstances we met under. However, I was feeling spontaneous. I showered, got dressed, and headed to the address he gave me. I arrived to his home and we talked for a bit. We ended up in his bedroom kissing on the bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We kept making out heavily on the bed and he started reaching down to unbutton my shorts. I was hesitant because I hadn’t been with anyone in almost a year sexually. He managed to reach his hands down into my panties and started rubbing my pussy. I was extremely wet. We kissed deeper and even more passionately, and he started fingering me. It felt so good. I was moaning, breathing so heavy cause it had been so long since a man touched me like this. He stopped fingering me for a second and unhooked my bra, and started taking my shirt off. I took my shorts and panties off and then started unbuttoning his shirt. He starts licking and sucking on my breast, and I said aloud, “We should stop…”
He kept going, so I said,”We really need to stop.” He asked me what’s wrong, I told him nothing, but I don’t want to break my celibacy. We kissed each other in between sentences. I laid on my back and he rolled over on top of my completely naked brown body. I started to slide down his boxers, I really wanted to stop but everything felt so good and so right. I reached down to touch his penis and he was rock solid – not as large as other men I’ve been with, but average. He looked into my eyes and said, “I want to be inside you.” We kissed deep and passionately sucking each other’s tongues, and he started grinding into my leg. I was so wet, the back of my thighs and butt were soaked.
I told him, “I don’t want to do this again with the wrong person…”
He looked me deep into my eyes and said “I’m not the wrong person.” I told him if he wanted to be inside me to grab a condom. He rolled over to grab a condom and put it on. He got back on top of me, I spread my legs, and he slid inside of me. I let out a big sigh and moan and pulled him closer to me. He started fucking me so nice and slow, and then he sped up. He went harder, ramming me deep – you could hear his balls slapping against me. He looked in my eyes while we were fucking and I raised my hips up to match his thrusts. My legs wrapped tightly around his waist…he was fucking me so good. Awkwardly enough, we were both quiet, but the intensity of this fuck was very loud. He took my legs and placed them on his shoulders, and he started fucking me so deep and hard it almost started to hurt; I was screaming, moaning, and digging into his back with my nails. He looked at me and said, “You’re gonna make me come…” He took my legs down, I wrapped them so tightly around his waist, and he fucked me so fast and deep with every thrust like I’ve never been fucked before. He was hitting spots I’ve never felt hit before. He hit my G-spot with each stroke. My body started shaking, I moaned so loud and I squeezed his ass as he blew his load inside of me (with a condom on)….we laid there in silence as he rested on my body and laid his head on my shoulder while I kissed the back of his neck…
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was awkwardly silent after we were done. I used his bathroom to clean up and got dressed to leave. We’ve texted each other a few times since then, and I talked to him the day before his flight to Europe on a two week vacation. I haven’t heard from him since. Honestly, I developed a small amount of feelings for him after this encounter. I think about him often, and I hope we can see each other again when he gets back.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend forever. She was actually happy I got some considering I was trying to remain celibate for religious purposes.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I broke my celibacy that had lasted almost a year, because I wanted to wait for the right guy. Also he went on vacation immediately afterwards, so I haven’t seen him since.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy and closeness of being with someone I hadn’t known for long. This was honestly the best sex I’ve ever had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Breaking my celibacy
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Slightly. I think casual sex can be healthy. It seems as if people who have sex often are happier in their lives. However, due to my religious beliefs, I don’t want to continuously participate in a sinful and fornicating lifestyle; although it’s EXTREMELY HARD not to.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I still believe sex should be between two committed individuals. I believe the more we open ourselves up to different people, the more emotionally confused we become. Also the less of ourselves we are able to give to our lifetime partner. I don’t think I’ll ever do something like this again.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s pretty cool. I’ve read a few stories on here for a while before posting my own. I never thought I would actually post a story.
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