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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Breaking Her Vow

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Cute tall blonde girl. A little dopey but sweet. I knew her somewhat; met on MySpace years before. She had a boyfriend but I kept telling her that I was going to fuck her anyway. Eventually did fuck her a few times and then she finished school and moved out of state.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day when chatting online she mentioned that she would be in the state next door for work for a few days. She was engaged at this point and told me there was no chance of my seeing her. But I talked her into letting me come to her hotel to just hang out. It was 11pm when I got there. We went out for beer but nobody was selling so we went back to the hotel to watch tv.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There wasn’t anywhere to watch television but on the bed so we were sitting beside each other fully clothed. She kept turning her head to stare at me and looking away when I looked back. Eventually I started to move my head closer to hers and she didn’t back away. I kissed her and she pulled away. But then she kissed back.
She said “we can kiss but nothing else can happen.” I told her that I wanted to suck her tits. She said “You’re not sucking my tits.” I started touching her tits from above her shirt. She took her shirt off and removed her bra and said “you can touch but not suck.” I sucked anyway and she moaned.

I pulled out my dick and she told me that she would touch it but not suck it. After playing with it she said “if I’m already touching it then I might as well suck it.” She moaned loud as she sucked my dick stopped s few minutes in, looked at the engagement band on the finger of the hand that was gripping my dick, said “that’s ridiculous” and took it off. She continued to suck me off and moan. She wouldn’t let me touch her pussy. When I came, she swallowed every drop and got up without kissing me. She took a shower. I knew she was feeling guilty. I left. We have never seen each other again. She called off the wedding and eventually married a different guy.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt a little guilty the next day. Poor sap fiancée was a 10 hours away while she was eagerly sucking my dick. No hopes for the future.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I could tell that my partner regretted it when done. It was hot for me, getting an engaged girl to suck me off. For her, I think it was viewed ultimately as a mistake made during a lonely night away from her lover.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The illicitness of if. Knowing that she was doing something wrong because she wanted me.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that she felt awful after v

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realize now that it’s not hard to cheat and assume most people do eventually.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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