What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Exeter
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Military
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? While on tour, I became friends with a lady from the RMP (While still having a serious girlfriend at home) We spoke a lot and became good friends. Her tour was due to end before mine, but she didn’t have a boyfriend back home, so a week or so before she left, she suggested dating, I knew I couldn’t but I went along with it, I thought it was exciting. She was very attractive and slim, blonde, blue eyes, amazing smile.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I asked to sleep with her that night, by now it was getting quite late, the medical tents are rarely used at night, so we slipped away into a small one that was empty where we did it, this went on for her last week.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We lay against each other at first just hugging, then we took off each others tops, trying to be as silent as possible, followed by kissing, then we stripped to our underwear, we didn’t get full nude but I moved her panties and was able to do her, missionary, of course we had to keep quite so I put my hand over her mouth to stop the moaning, but she asked for it hard, it got very intense, this happened nearly every, night. It finish with kissing and then sneaking out of the tent unseen.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t want her to go, it was amazing, the secrecy made it all the more fun. But I haven’t seen her since. I wish I could do it again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Not at all

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few guys from my unit, it was met with an overwhelming number of high fives.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Excitement, thrills, a new friend.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing, a little guilt for cheating, but what you don’t know can’t hurt you. Unless its the location of an IED

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat, but ask for her number.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It should not be frowned down upon as much.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Brilliant.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!