by Chestnut

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? architect
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Constantly curious girl
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Breakup sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? one month

What was your relationship status at the time? complicated ending of a relationship

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was my boyfriend for one year. I was in his class but never really talked much. He first struck me as smart and interesting when we hung out for a beer at some point, but he had a girl back then. When we eventually hooked up, it was an up and down relationship that made me want to terminate it constantly during the year we were together. The sex was quite amazing though, and the relationship was pretty intense throughout. He was tall, and had gorgeous and innocent green eyes. His hair was dark brown, wavy and shoulder length. He used to play the guitar and that made me very nervous and emotional every time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in a limbo for a while by then. I gave up on the relationship and he wanted me back. When I finally gave in and wanted to talk, he said he met someone else. I was pretty angry and hurt, and couldn’t really believe things were over between us since he insisted for us to get back together. One evening after a pause, I called and said I needed some things and said I should come by his place. He agreed. I was devious enough to bring a bottle of vodka with me. When I arrived he knew instantly of my plan, and we were casual and friendly with each other for the first part of the evening. At some point I think we started drinking some wine he had around the house. We then smoked some legal things he still had around the house since we were together. I could say I instigated it, but he was more than willing to play along with my intentions.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Everything went a bit crazy after all that drinking and smoking, and we started playing some game together, but we put in place some rules: who loses has to do what the winner asks them to. So we played, and one by one the clothes disappeared. We made out at some point, but everything was only related to the game, nothing was supposed to be natural. We were intoxicated and extremely horny. Everything we demanded from each other for winning was kinky. I lost a few rounds on purpose, losing more and more clothes off my back.This eventually led to make out, oral, then full blown sex, one step at a time. This time though, things were a bit more intense since it was already forbidden and hidden from his current girlfriend. He was extremely horny and it was obvious he wanted this to happen for old time sake, but he couldn’t be involved emotionally anymore, and this was incredibly obvious. I didn’t mind though, I knew the outcome. He always let me know the sex between us was great, and he seemed to have missed and wanted to experience it one more time before we parted ways. He was as awesome as usual. After the on and off sex and obeying the “game” rules, we fell asleep at his place.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning I wanted to go again, but this time he was not as willing as the night before. We did it again, but felt like it was all me that was willing. We talked for a bit and then I left forever, knowing this was over for real this time.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance, Revenge / Getting even

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol,

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol,

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My sister and close friends. They were worried that it would lead me back to a painful state, but it was nice of them to do that.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? He cheated on his current girlfriend and I’m not ok with that.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex, the obedience, the game, the lack of emotional connection, the innuendo.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His regret the next day. If he would’ve been more ok with it in the morning it wouldn’t have affected the outcome.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? no

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