What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 33
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: I believe in God my way
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 31
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1 or 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We matched on Tinder. He wasn’t really good looking in the pics, but he was smiling like crazy. Skinny and tall (2 meters), dark blond hair and blue eyes, tanned skin, a few tattoos. On our first date, he picked me up at my house. I was a little tipsy and he was driving, so of course, he wasn’t. When I saw him, I was surprised, because he was sharply dressed, and I looked like a punk teenager (as always). But he was nice, generous, but even on the Tinder he seemed to be a little bit simple in the head, not really educated… like ‘only good for a fuck’…
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On the first date, after an hour I asked him to kiss me, but he refused, because ‘he wanted to know me first’. I explained, that I’m on the Tinder because I’d like to fuck and thanks, but I have my friends to talk to. Then he kissed me, and it was awesome, but nothing else happened that evening. I said, that our second date must contain sex, so we will try my jacuzzi, and he agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On the second date, he came to my place. We drank and talked, and then we went into the tub. We continued drinking in the water, and I started to touch his body. It turned out, that he has a huge, rock hard cock, which I really wanted to ride. He touched my body too. He was gentle but hard and he turned me on even more. I got on top of him in the tub and slid down on his cock. It wasn’t really easy, because of the water, but I just wanted his cock inside me, no matter what. And it felt awesome!
We couldn’t move in the water, so we were just sitting, swinging a little bit, kissing, smoking cigarettes, drinking wine, kissing again touching each other, while his cock was inside me, but we really got closer and closer to orgasm. I wanted him to cum in my pussy, but he wanted to have another bottle of wine first, and I agreed. (Silly me!) In the next moment, I slipped in the tub, falling out of it. I was lying on the floor naked, in an embryo position, with a massive pain in my right arm and hand. He yelled ‘Jesus! Can I help you?’ ‘Yes, don’t look at me!’…
After a half minute I checked my arm, and it was totally dislocated out of place, where I have no joints, so it was clear, that I had multiple fractures. After a little bit of sleeping, he drove me to the emergency, and it turned out, that I need an operation, because the doctors couldn’t relocate my bones. (They tried hard for a long time, and it wasn’t the most pleasant half hour in my life!) So they said that I have to move to the hospital the next day, for about a week.
We went back to my home, laughed, drank and laughed more about my bad luck. But at least we finished what we started, in the bed this time. I had two mind-blowing orgasms, both are in the Top 10 of my whole life! He is the greatest lover I’ve ever had!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, I didn’t want anything but sex from him. He wanted more. Lots of orgasms and a hand surgery later, we are officially a couple, we moved in together, we got a dog together, and I can say, that I’m in love! (And he is smarter, than I thought on our first date, so his brain and his perfect cock won the match!) My expectations for the future are more sex and orgasms!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my best friend, before I introduced this guy as my ‘cool lover’. My best friend told me that my whole life was a joke, so he was not surprised, that I found lovers in the trash. But after he met the guy, he said, that I should take care of him, because he was the best and he deserved a nice girl!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I’ve found the person, who completely satisfies me sexually, emotionally and mentally.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My right hand will never be 100% movable again (according to my doctor, the best case scenario is 70%), so I’m actually crippled because of this!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I thought, that the orgasm was never guaranteed. Now I know, that it depends on the other person (and on me, of course)!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex was a massive part of my life because after my fiancé died, I didn’t want to have a relationship – not even friends with benefits -, I just wanted to fuck with random strangers. I think it’s cool and you can know yourself better sexually.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s fun to read and also useful!
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!