What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I do have male sex organs in case anyone wonders.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Bukakke Birthday Party

How long ago did this hookup happen? when I was 19, about 5 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My “husband” at that time, a handsome man in his mid-40s and four of his friends of similar age.

I was 19 and considered myself the “wife” of this man. We were really in love and I spent most of my time with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My “husband” and I were watching porn together and stumbled across bukakke. I told him that I would love to do this. He replied that it shouldn’t be a problem to arrange this. His birthday was coming up, so he would simply invite a few of his friends and we could do bukakke if that is what I wanted to do.

I was a bit surprised that he would let me have oral sex with several of his friends, but I was happy to go along with the ideas of my “husband”.

Sure enough, he invited five of his gay friends to his birthday party and told them that the plan was that I would suck all of their cocks and have them spray their sperm on my face. One of them opted out, so it was five men that I would service.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were celebrating this small party, there were drinks and food just as usual. Everybody knew the plan that at midnight, when my “husband” would turn 45, I was to bring in the birthday cake naked and then we would do the bukakke.

I undressed in the bedroom, brought in the wedding cake, everybody clapped and sang happy birthday. I put the cake on a table and sat on the ground, the five men forming a circle around me. I started to take turns in sucking their dicks, but they also began to wank each other and fondle my penis as well. We had a lot of fun. Everybody was fondling and touching everybody, I was the center of attention sitting on the ground rotating between those five eager penises. I almost always had a penis in my mouth and wanking another one with my hand. Sometimes I would let go of wanking somebody to give a more intense blowjob.

All five men ended up spraying their sperm onto my face and my body. I was covered in sperm and eventually ejaculated on the floor myself. I licked off quite a bit of it but ended up taking a shower to wash it off. I could not drink it all.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The party just continued. I had sex with my “husband” after everybody had left. I told him how much I had enjoyed myself. I wish we had taken pictures.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have told people of this bukakke experience because I am a bit proud of it. Maybe this way I inspire people to just do what they want to do this way. Most people thought it was exciting and a good experience to have.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sucking everybody’s dicks and getting covered in juicy sperm.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to shower because I could not drink it all.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was a bit surprised that my “husband” had no qualms about letting me do this. From then on, our relationship got even more open. He told me he likes me being “slutty” like this. I knew that he was fucking others, but I did not quite understand that he didn’t have a problem with me fucking around.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? To everybody who has fantasies: Just try your best to live them! You will regret otherwise.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have a lot of casual sex and it is starting to feel empty. I guess I am ready for a new relationship.

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