by Military man
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Africa
What country and/or city do you live in? Johannesburg
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Medical
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? About 30 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Strangers at night
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We were both traveling home on the bus so we just met and I thought she was hot. We never spoke so I had no idea how she felt about me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were travelling overnight by bus. I was returning to my military camp from a weekend pass due to get off the bus at 2 in the morning. She got in the bus and sat next to me. I thought she was hot but being shy and in uniform so I just smiled and greeted she smiled back.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
At some stage, she fell asleep on the trip and her head fell to my shoulder. She seemed uncomfortable so I moved down in my seat to allow her to be more comfortable. I felt her shiver so I put my arm around her. I expected her to move away but she never instead she snuggled closer. Here I was not sure who touched who first. I remembered her hand in my leg and my cock responded and she seemed to like that. I then touched her breast closest to me and her nipples were calling to me. She moved my hand down and I found that her crotch was very warm as she was excited. My cock was growing harder by the second. I tried to put my hand down her pants but she stopped me so I continued to rub above her pants. We stopped every time the bus stopped as people walked past she made as if she was sleeping. I continued now and was very excited I felt her body tense and shudder a little and I started to slow down but she pushed my hand back. I continued and as far as I knew, to bring her to several orgasms before she gasped out that she had missed the stop. I apologized sheepishly and she just said it was ok and it was fun. My stop was next so I kissed her on the cheek and disembarked never getting any of her details. I was rock hard and found that my transport back to camp was late so I went into the bathroom and finished myself off. I still think about this lovely girl.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now?
I never got any details and being in Apartheid South Africa a white man with a colored girl was frowned on but not by us. I wished I got her details so we could maybe meet up again sometime
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’ but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told my wife about it
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? We never exchanged details and it would have been nice to finish what we started.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The excitement of doing something taboo. Being with a stranger out in public. And definitely feeling someone get so turned on by your touch.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not hooking up after
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It makes me more adventurous and I want to try to do it again
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Definitely a fantasy come true
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Not being a casual sex kind of Guy this was a definite first and very pleasurable
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Looks like fun
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