What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 57
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? n/a
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1976
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? sex on a bus
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on a school bus trip to an amusement park.We both were in orchestra/ band but in two different high schools. The two music departments combined for a cost savings. When I got on the bus I sat down in the seat in front of her. She was about 5’6″ 110-115 lbs. straight brown hair with glasses.Nice looking but wouldn’t of stood out in a crowd. We just started talking and she offered me some carrot stix which I took a few of even though I didn’t like them. Found out she was a senior, while i was a sophomore. When we got to the park we just kind of ended up walking around together and then riding rides together.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Nothing really was planned. On a boat ride I put my arm around her when we got in and then we kissed in the dark tunnel. After that we started holding hands and making out a little when an opportunity presented. When it was time to leave we sat on seats across from each other in the back of the bus with our legs and feet on each other.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Started playing with each others feet while working our way to each others more sensitive areas. It ended up with us masturbating each other with our feet. She came, but I wouldn’t allow myself to because I didn’t want to make a mess on myself. when the bus made a pit stop we sat together in the seat. The bus was dark and noisy so nobody paid any attention to us. We scrunched down in the seat and started making out. I discovered that she had slipped her panties off at the stop and was very wet. She got my cock out, pulled my shorts down a little then sat on my lap and we leaned back in the seat. She wiggled a little and my cock slid right in. The thought of getting caught made it so exciting we each came at least twice. Afterward we got ourselves cleaned up and put right for the rest of the ride. We didn’t really talk much just sat with each other. felt a little awkward getting off the bus and saying goodbye.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we said goodbye we just left. I don’t know why but neither of us exchanged numbers or anything. I meant to try and get hold of her but neither of us ever did.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have never told anyone util writing about it now.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I wish I could of seen her again. But I felt awkward and a little embarrased
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was very exciting
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? not seeing her again
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I spent a lot of time trying to recapture the feelings I experienced, but never could.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I feel very differently now as a more mature person. I do not think that sex is something to be taken in such casual regard.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Our society has so inundated us with so much sexuality that it has really devalued one of the most intimate aspects of life. We tend to treat people as merely sexual objects which leads to the idea that other peoples worth is what they can do for us. We tend to discard spouses, partners and others around us when they cease to be of interest and therefore of little value to us. This spills over into all aspects of our society and our relationships with others.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting. Cause for thought and reflection.
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