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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 21
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m still not sure if I actually know her real name. Let’s call her Cally. She’s an american living close to where I live (in Germany), we met on an online dating site. She’s good looking, some pounds extra but all in the right places, busty and just expresses by her pure apprearance. Lookwise totally my thing. Late 30s, I guess. We emailed for a few days very intensely, then we proceeded to skype. We had 2 very hot skype sessions where I jerked of to her ‘presenting her’. She knew what triggers to pull. I had to meet her. I was crazy about fucking her. Weird about the skype thing was, due to technical issues, we were not able to speak. We just texted but had the camera. But it worked. We decided to meet in my town.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met in an Irish Pub and agreed prior to the meeting, that I would kiss her right away, without saying a word. That’s what we did. It was really hard to strike up a conversation with her. Her german would’ve been fine, I guess, but we switched between languages and, till the end, only exchanged cuttings of talk. She was all over me and got me hard in the Pub right away. I decided to go the hotel room I booked right away. On the way, we made out some more, but everytime I asked some more detailed question that would require some full sentences as an answer, she was all over me again. I thought it was weird but damn, I wanted to fuck her.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived at the Hotel room, she went to the bathroom to get herself ready, she came out, we made out, stripped each other down. She had a net-dress on, that I had to rip off to get to the holes, which was quite nice. I ate her out and fucked pretty much right away. I was so horny, I think I’ve lasted live 15min in missionary, but she was loud and responding and everthing was fine. By that time I already found her breath quite disgusting. I tried to avoid kissing her. So after my (and her) first orgasm, I layed down and she gave me the best handjob ever. She brought her favourite lube and really knew how to work on a dick. I came after her edging me for like 20min. We layed together again, me preferring to kiss something else on her body but her mouth, got hard again and fucked her doggy and her on flat stomach and came again. We layed together again, she was really looking after a caressing thing from my side, which is fine, but by that time I didn’t want to kiss her at all. I tried to start of a real conversation, but it just didn’t work out (Looking back, I think she saw herself as a kitten. We had that thing on skype already and apparently the deal is, to very much not do, what the partner wants. Major turn down. Really, i think she took the kitten-thing too literally). I felt more and more not comfortable and thought about how I could get rid of her as soon as possible.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went to the toilet and texted another fuck-buddy of mine (who is really relaxed about anything I do besides her) to call me in 20 min and pretend to tell me something bad happened. My text to her was really misunderstanding so she thought, that really something bad had happende. Since I knew Cally understood some german, I could’ve not been too obvious about my intentions (I still didn’t know, how good her german actually was, since hadn’t had a real conversation yet). Well, Cally caught it some how, she thought I was cheating on someone (which I was not), I told her I was not comfortable right now I wanted her to leave. That was tough, she was obviously very pissed since she clearly stated, she was not into ONS, I brought her to the station, she left and I’ve not heard from her since.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My other fuck buddy. She laughed a lot.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The Sex and the Hand job

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her breath and that she was not able to hold a conversation, Plus the kitten thing.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? nope. like it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If you never tried handjobs, it can be magic, really. Just take some lube and play around. It was awesome.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s fine & I’m fine with it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good job

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