by DJ

Gender: Male
Age: 30
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Connecticut, USA
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Relationship status: Engaged
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bi-sexual/ recovering sex addict
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35 women, 10 men
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Three years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Booty call

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Carrie was from New Rochelle, NY and I lived just outside Hartford at the time. We met on a sex site and started camming very early on in the friendship. I was immediately struck by her gorgeous Asian body. She was petite and had small features, but she had a stunning shape. She had a shaved head and piercings.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’d been attracted to each other from the get-go, but the distance between us and conflicting schedules made it hard to imagine ever being able to meet in real life. So we spent months chatting and having sex on webcam with each other. She knew I had a gf and knew that I was very promiscuous, but so was she, so she didn’t judge. We finally were able to plan for her to visit one day. I picked her up at the bus depot and drove her back to my place, with the explicit intention that we would be having sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After some awkward chatting, we started making out. It was weird at first because there had been so much build up to this moment, it was hard for the experience to match our expectations. We kissed well together though. She climbed on top of me and started tearing off my clothes. I took her shirt off and sucked on her nipples as she grinded her panties on my bulge. When we were fully naked, I decided I wanted to try fucking her standing up, since she was so tiny, I knew I could sustain her weight. That was a dumb idea. Fucking while standing only works in porn. It was neat but didn’t feel all that great. It was hot nonetheless. Her flexibility would carry over into the bedroom once I brought her in and dropped her onto the white comforter. She bent in ways that I’ve never experienced with any woman and my cock seemed to get deeper and deeper with each new position. All the while, through this bit of sexual one-upping, there was a substantial lack of passion between us. I don’t think we realized just how awkward the visit would be. We just lacked the chemistry in real-life that came so naturally online. After about an hour, I came inside her and we cuddled for a while. We had a natural rapport that was hard to ignore, but for whatever reason, it didn’t carry over into the bedroom.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t wear condoms but had discussed STI and had both been tested recently.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Curiosity. Attraction.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Carrie is a beautiful person, deserving of much more than our random hook-up. She is one of those people that I’ve met through my sexual addiction that I’m glad to have met and had in my life. She has a wonderful spirit. I haven’t spoken with her much since we met that day, but I hope she’s doing well.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. Surprisingly, this is one I kept to myself.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it, but I often wondered what would’ve happened if Carrie and I had tried to have an actual relationship and do things the proper way. We had talked about it a lot and built up feelings, which is what made the disappointment even deeper when the experience didn’t live up to expectations.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was that we seemed to get closure on our relationship and had pretty great sex. The most negative aspect was that it didn’t live up to expectations.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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