What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 51
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Switzerland
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Researcher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Pretty blonde German girl, large bust. We were sitting opposite each other on the train from Casablanca to Tangier – I had caught a stomach bug and had to leave the seat to throw up. I was with an American guy I was trying to get rid of and he was unsuccessfully trying to impress her whilst she was directing considerable interest in my direction, despite my rather sorry state. My sole focus was to avoid having to go for a runny dump on a moving train with just a hole in the floor for a toilet.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When we eventually hit Algeciras, I managed to dump the Yank and we ended up hitchhiking to a camping site somewhere in the country. That first night I simply went to sleep with the taste of vomit in my mouth to the sounds of her asking me NOT to go to sleep. I was so wrecked I couldn’t face anything else.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The next night – we were sleeping out in the open – we were talking and pretty soon I just leaned over and started kissing her, after a minute or so I started feeling her breasts and a minute or two after that my hand wandered down between her legs, in between kisses she then said words to the effect of “you certainly know what you want” and I, a bit shy apologised, but she encouraged me to continue. So after a few minutes more, I went down on her in a kind of awkward position for me as I was trying to position my cock close to her mouth without actually 69’ing her.
After a while, she kind of took the hint and took me in her mouth but not for long and it was obvious she wasn’t into it – I guess she wasn’t too keen on this happening in an open campsite, albeit in the dark, but I didn’t really care, so when she stopped I repositioned myself between her legs and really went to town on her orally whilst also fondling her breasts. She came twice – squirting both times, the first time not much but the second time much more and I hadn’t even heard of this before so I wasn’t quite sure what had just happened. Eventually, I figured it was time to do the biz so I moved up between her legs. I wasn’t sure whether she wanted it or not or with or without condom, so I just gently stabbed her vagina so she reached down and guided me in. I didn’t last long between her being very wet, me being ultra horny, and kissing her mouth and her tits whilst pumping away like a complete beginner I can’t have lasted more than a few minutes. Since she had already come twice, I didn’t feel guilty.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We could have done it again but if I’m honest I wasn’t on the ball and she didn’t actually contribute much so I wasn’t too keen on having to do all the work again. Next morning we got talking to some girls in the next tent and it was obvious that they knew what we had done but I didn’t really care. I had to make it to Calais in about two days so we took a train up north and she got off in Jerez. We spent some time kissing and I tried feeling her breasts on the train a couple of times but she wasn’t comfortable so I left it at that.
She wrote me a postcard and when I moved to Germany, I telephoned her, but I was worried that she had gotten pregnant and had just met my future wife, so I wasn’t too keen on meeting up with her and we didn’t talk again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody really – I mentioned a girl on a beach to a couple of friends – I had just come badly out of a relationship and it was nice to have uncomplicated sex – but it wasn’t really something we talked much about in our circle.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I suppose – as I have limited experience – it was both the uncomplicated nature of the night and experiencing squirting.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The passivity on her part – an acquaintance put it once thus – the problem with big breasted women is that they think bringing their breasts to the show is enough. I’m not keen on repeating such vulgarities (and wasn’t keen on hearing it in the first place) but it does to my mind sum up her attitude perfectly.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. I didn’t really do casual sex – I preferred the idea of regular sex with a girlfriend – so it was very welcome as an un-complicated night. Now, as I’m older, I wouldn’t mind another one or two such nights but no such experience would be worth being unfaithful to my wife for.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I grew up in rural 70’s Catholic Ireland – without actually being a part of it – and the kind of attitudes towards, “against” would be more accurate, sex, never mind casual sex, felt completely artificial, un-human. As an acquaintance of the previous generation once remarked to me “we were robbed.” At university – in Dublin – it was more available despite the lack of contraception so I suppose we were lucky to be able to have more experience than the previous generation. Nowadays, if the papers and the few acquaintances I have left are to be believed, they are starting it at 13 which strikes me as being the other extreme of unhealthy.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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