by

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? West Virginia, USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Education / Recreation
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Campus Building Bathroom

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a Latino guy of average build, with dark hair. We met on a gay hookup app and had chatted for a few days. We were planning on meeting, but other stuff kept popping up. Then one evening, unexpectedly, I was still in town on campus, and he got off of his work early. I forget who suggested it, but we found a bathroom in a campus building that had a full shower and bathroom combination and had a door that locked from the inside. I was a bit nervous about meeting him, but I was still excited.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in the bathroom on campus. We went inside and locked the door. It was a pretty spur of the moment thing when he messaged that he was off of work, so not much planning.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He may have given me oral and a handjob to get me hard, but then afterward, he pulled down his pants and leaned over the sink and let me top him. He started to reach down for something, and I thought it was going to be a condom, but instead, it was a popper bottle. He asked if I wanted some too, and I said no because I had no idea what poppers were or what they did.

The sex was enjoyable, but I was also nervous because I came super quick. He hadn’t gone yet, so I had to try and stay hard and thrusting until he came too. He was super into it.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t intend on doing much more with him after that evening. After the poppers, I was also a little unsure since I had no idea what they were, and was a little off-put by the whole drug thing. He wanted to meet up again, but I don’t know if I ever messaged back right away. Fast forward a few years more and we met up again and I helped him pack up some of his stuff at his apartment. I still wouldn’t want to pursue any kind of relationship with him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Poppers (Amyl Nitrate)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t talked to too many people. Most of my friends aren’t as open about discussing sex that I know of. Not that they don’t like it, they just don’t really talk about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex in a public place. Hot!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I came so quickly! I would’ve liked to last longer.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I realized I didn’t really want to try poppers after I looked up what they were.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Since I didn’t use a condom, I had to wash my dick off in the sink. Luckily he was clean, so there wasn’t a mess, and there was a sink conveniently there.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I enjoy casual sex. I used to think along the lines that I didn’t really want to hook up. But after trying it, I enjoy it. I wish people were more understanding and accepting of the fact that some people are able to love one person, and also desire sex with others outside of a central relationship.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it! I’m glad I stumbled upon it. Plus, writing out about things you have done is exciting for me. I like sharing my stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!