by hotlips

Gender: female
Age: 35
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Illinois
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Cashier
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

A young man having a shower
Can I borrow your shower?

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Boredom sex with a complete stranger

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a blonde man. Somewhere between 28 and 35. He looked like he’d been working hard all day.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in a small town bar. I heard him talking about how he was on a crew working on the water tower. He didn’t have a car to drive and was wanting to take a real shower BADLY but didn’t have a way to get the 10 miles to the nearest truck stop with public showers. I thought ‘he’s cute. I have a shower. I’d do him if he wanted to.’ So I told him I live within walking distance and he can use my shower.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We talked for a bit. I gave him a towel to take a shower then I laid on my bed, scantily clothed, and waited for him. When he was done he came in my room and laid on the bed. He said it felt nice since he’d been sleeping in a truck. It was almost like he was wanting me to invite him to stay the night. I didn’t know him so that wasn’t about to happen but I needed to get laid so I didn’t say ‘no’ right away. We laid there for awhile, til I got bored and thought ‘he needs to shit or get off the pot. I could be sleeping right now.’ So I asked him if he wanted a blow job. Sucking dick is my go-to move when I’m bored with a man or want to speed up his departure. We 69ed, we had sex. It wasn’t that great. Almost not worth the water I let him use. I did not orgasm but that’s pretty normal. When all was said and done I offered him a ride back to the truck he’d been sleeping in. I still cant remember his name and I think he was engaged and from one of the Carolinas but really, I don’t care about his personal business.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I’m fixed. Probably shoulda used a condom though.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Boredom.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Very little alcohol for me. 2-3 drinks. Him, idk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Yesterday is gone. Today is a new day.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The bartender thought it was funny. My boyfriend,  not so much.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Only because I shouldn’t have cheated on my boyfriend. I always cheated on him with the excuse I’m bored or he’s always gone but over the years I would hope to think I’ve grown up and truly love my boyfriend. He’s always gone because he’s working to provide for our family…just like the showering stranger…hmmmm…I wonder where MY man is right now?

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing- I got it out of my system…temporarily… Worst thing- the guilt.

This particular hookup has/had no bearing on my life. I’ve had sex with over 250 men and several ladies. If someone had asked me 15 years ago the impact hookups have on my life, I may have had a life-changing opinion or an epiphany of sorts, but ask me now? I stopped caring about 14 years ago.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? The guilt of this hook up and several others pushed me to come clean to my boyfriend. When nameless, shameless sex starts to give you bad feelings, you just might love the one you’re with.

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