What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 0
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? a couple of days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Hunter was tall, dark haired, muscular with light skin and was hairy, He reached out to me on a dating app and we started talking casually getting to know one another then we swapped phone numbers. After that he kept sending me tease pictures and he had a great body so I enjoyed it. We continued to talk then he started to tell me thing about how i’m the one and how he loved me. I thought that it was nice and I liked him so I said it back casually because I felt it would be rude if I didn’t.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had stopped talking because he said that he got into some sort of trouble and he couldn’t do continue with whatever we had anymore. He later texted me a week later and said that he would explain things and that he wanted to meet me in person, I was confused but said okay because I started having feelings for him. So we hadn’t met yet, I told him that he could come over to my house and we could talk and stuff. I had been fantasizing about having sex with him for some time now, so he messages me back and says that if he comes over that we would ultimately end up having sex. I texted back and said that it was okay and we would see where the night takes us, I was attracted to him and liked him so it would be fine of it lead to that. We couldn’t really meet anywhere because we’re both students living with our parents so he said that he would pick me up and we would figure something out.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So we decided that he would pick me up a block away from my house because I didn’t want my parents to see me going into a strange car, they would get suspicious. I got changed and told my dad that i was going to a friends house to help them out with something, he said okay and i left to go and meet Hunter. I went down the block and he was there in his car, he was exactly like the pictures that he sent me of him. So get into the car ad he drives off, we started talking about school and stuff, then he found place to park the car and we started making out, he then continued to kiss my neck and i got aroused. We went to the back seats and continued to make out and he unbuttoned my shirt and unzipped my pants and started fondling me. I was excited and he asked if i had ever gotten a blowjob, I told him no and he just started sucking. It was a weird feeling at first because that was the first time that I had did that but I got used to and it was good. He had taken off all of his clothing and I started sucking him off, we continued with this. He then asked if I wanted to try anal, I was hesitant but we had already did so much I decided to take it all the way, so he stuck it in me and we did multiple positions(missionary, reverse cowgirl, regular cowgirl. I don’t really know what they’re called since this is my first time) . He then released on my face, I cleaned him and myself up and we talked a little bit before he drove me back home. It was so exciting and possibly he best night that I had.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He texted me later that night and we just talked about what we were doing, which wasn’t really anything just lying in bed watching tv then we both went to sleep. The next day i texted him, he didn’t reply but got back to me later on. I felt happy and anxious to see him again. I was also thinking about him more and wanting to have a relationship. He said that he wants to take things slow but after what we did I don’t know about slow but that’s what we’re doing.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I haven’t spoken to anyone about it, maybe later on I’ll tell my best friend but I’ll have to see.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being with his guy and having him to be the one to take my virginity.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we had to have sex in a car but its not a draw back it made it more interesting in my opinion.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me think of sex in general , made me more assured in my sexuality and a little better about myself.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I feel that its great for people to get another perspective on casual sex and helps to reassure those who have misunderstandings or feel outcasted from an experience that they had.
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