Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 months ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Tall, light brown hair, slim face, 2 years older than me. A gardener – of all the occupations he could be in, he chose gardening?! Never met him before, had been talking to him periodically for two or so weeks on Grindr. I liked him, he was attractive but I was too shy to tell him that I liked him (but not too shy to hook up?!)
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Began by talking to him on grindr, he gave me his snapchat and his mobile number and asked me if I wanted to go for a midnight “drive”. About 2am he pulled up outside my house, I sneaked out and jumped in, introduced myself. He was nice, kind face, mildly innocent looking.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We drove out through the country, down rural roads, through small villages to a small car park out in a wood – spooky! He pulled up and I looked over at him, he looked at me and pulled me close, I panicked (I’d never kissed a boy before). He said he’d do all the work so I closed my eyes and leaned in.
He kissed me passionately, slipping his tongue in and out my mouth and stroking his hands all over my body.
Then he reached down, unzipped my jeans, pulled them down a little and began rubbing my bulge, still kissing me. I didn’t really feel anything, just that feeling that you get when you try something new, not quite sure what to make of it.
I started rubbing his bulge through his trousers, then he moved down, biting my neck and undoing his trousers, pulling down his pants and pushing my head down on him. It tasted good. Better than I had thought it would. I just sucked while he lay back in the drivers seat quietly moaning.
After a couple of minutes he pulled me up, kissed me again and leant over my way. I pulled my pants down and he started sucking me. I wasn’t overly impressed by the feeling but I let him do it. I kicked off my pants and jeans and moved over to sit on his lap looking at him, rubbing our cocks together and kissing again. He started jerking faster and eventually came up his chest while we kissed and I shot just after.
It was hot, the windows steamed up – like the titanic scene! We got our clothes back on, we drove back home. He kissed me again before I got out.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was curious. He was horny.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good. It released some sexual tension. We talked about the possibility of meeting up again, just to chill together but he was moving away.
About a week after the hookup, he texted me telling me he had done what he’d done so I could say I had done something with a guy and that he was sorry.
I was angry, more upset and felt a real sense of regret. I kept it to myself for months, ashamed of what I had done. We didn’t talk again.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? About 4 months after the hookup, I told my best friend about it, in detail and how I felt about it. She was very understanding, didn’t react to it as she had done the same and regretted it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes. I wanted to save the experience for someone that meant something to me not for a random stranger.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Made me curious to try out with girls so I can really determine my sexuality.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
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