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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 23
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 6

Carnival in Germany

How long ago did this hookup happen? Feb 2015

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Let’s call her Romy. She was in her early 30s, some pounds extra but well spreaded. It was Carnival in town, which is quite a big thing in the town I live. I met her and two male friends of her in a bar very late at night, 3 or 4ish, I guess. I got there with a friend of mine and everybody was pretty drunk. Her two male friends were fan of the same football club as me so I started to talk to them first and we got along pretty well. People dress up on Carnival and I was dressed up as The Dude. I can’t remember if I actually put down my wig and sunglasses in the bar so she knew how I looked liked. Anyways, I started flirting with her at some point, we got a long very well but I felt it’s not going to happen so I decided to give her my number, told her live close by and left with my buddy.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I really didn’t expect her to call, but she did, maybe 15min after we’ve left. I directed her to my place and she came over. We sat down at the kitchen table and I made two white russians 🙂 Mine not really strong, since I realized it was time to sober up. We talked for quite a while. She had some issues with her son and ex (first time and only time I’ve been with an acutal mother), her pursuing profession in some educational stuff, etc. She later told I was a good listener. I can’t remember much. At some point I got up, stood behind her and started to massage her back and neck, played with her hair, led her up to me and kissed her.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to the bed and I can’t really remember what happened. I didn’t come, we went to sleep. Luckily she wasn’t in a hurry the next morning, so we spent the whole later morning and noon having sex, and it was awesome. She was quite tight and I cummed 3 times in total, even while she rode me, which is quite unsual. We had a shower together and fucked standing up, making breakfast together naked and giving each other oral, ending up on my fuck mattress every 30 min. I have no idea how I had the stamina after such a night. She left eventually.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We texted back and forth and since she was a single mother it was pretty much impossible to do this again, on the extent that we started with. I visited her 2 months after the hook up at her place, her son was at home (13 years). She told me prior to my arrival that she had talked to him, that she had explained him that she is having a friend over and boy guessed what it was about. He actually told her, he doesn’t want a second father, which I thought was quite funny. We had awesome sex again, but she told me in advance I can’t sleep over. I left and the connection sort of dissolved.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The friend I was out with that night. He was surprised and gave me props.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Morning/Noon-Sex

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. It just wasn’t supposed to continue, I guess. We were both fine with that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was dressed as The Dude!!!

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Like it, live it. Spread the word!

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.

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