Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Technical Advisor
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 Months
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had met during training of our current occupation. At first, we didn’t pay much attention to each other and I honestly thought he was a little arrogant. After the first week of training, he came and sat by the computer to my right. We hit it off immediately and barely focused on the material because we were having such a fun time together. I enjoyed coming to work because of how light and happy I felt. At home, I had being having a tough time with my boyfriend of 3 years and this guy never failed to put everything into perspective for me and gave me such wise, unbiased and blunt advise. By the end of training I was absolutely enamored with him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After our last day of training, the whole class went out to the local bar. A handful of us stayed later than the rest and we spent our time singing with a local band, doing shots and just having a good time. At one point during the night he decided we should go for a walk to sober up. We discussed some personal things but nothing happened and I felt disappointed, my lust for him had become impossible to ignore. As we sat beside each other he reached under the table and held my hand. My boyfriend had been extremely unloving in the recent months so this action made my heart do somersaults.
The bar closed at 2am and one of the girls from our class invited us back to her apartment. She pointed to her couch, threw a couple blankets our way and headed to bed. Shortly after this, he cupped my face and kissed me so passionately. Immediately, we began removing our clothes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I wish I could say the sex was amazing but it wasn’t. We did have amazing chemistry and passion but he wasn’t very experienced so was constantly pulling out too far so I would have to guide him back in. I’ve never particularly enjoyed kissing during sex either but his idea of kissing was… interesting. He also kept sticking his tongue in my ear but I went along with it and pretended it wasn’t so bad. I made sure to position my hips a certain way so he hit the right spot whilst we were missionary. After a while I decided to give him a blowjob and he guided my head to take more of him and showed me just how he liked to be touched. Quietly, he asked me to suck his balls so I spent a short time doing this and touching him wherever he put my hands.
Something seemed to wake up in him and he threw me back onto the couch and penetrated me harshly. He became more confident with what he was doing and I began enjoying sex with him. We came in unison shortly after this and quickly dressed and cleaned up the mess we had made.
After this, we shared a cab together and both went to our separate houses.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t use any protection and I was not on any form of birth control. We were risking a lot but thankfully we are both clean and no pregnancy resulted from our night together.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? We were attracted to each other, plain and simple. He hadn’t been with a girl for a long time and I was severely unhappy in my relationship, both sexually and emotionally.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had both had a considerable amount to drink but we were still aware of what we were doing and what it meant.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? At first, it was awkward between the two of us. He had never experienced something so intimate yet so casual and his avoidance and silence became upsetting for me. I was still enamored with him and desperately tried to get his attention.
A couple weeks later our class went out again and at the end of the night he offered to walk me home. We had a long discussion about how we felt and where we stood with each other and he admitted that my feelings would not be returned. It hurt, but I accepted it.
We work beside each other daily and there’s no hostility between the two of us, in fact we’re very close with each other. I think our hookup ended up causing a deep friendship and understanding. We still have our little inside jokes and when I’m having a bad day he never fails to cheer me up. What we shared has also meant we are very blunt and open to the other, which sometimes is not wanted but we both mean well and I would not have it any other way. I still think he’s one of the best men I will ever know and I’m pleased we shared such an intimate moment.
I am still with my boyfriend and he has since met a girl and they’ve been together for a few months now. Whenever we have relationship troubles we seem to be the first one the other turns to.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The only person who knows the extent of what happened is the girl whose apartment we had sex in, though I suspect he has also told his brother who we also work with.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was definitely consensual and a wanted experience on both sides.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do not regret it at all. I feel like I got something out of my system that I had been craving since getting into a serious relationship. I no longer feel deprived of freedom which is something I was very conflicted with previously.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel a lot more comfortable in my own skin now. He definitely made me feel desirable and confident again.
I had always advocated casual sex before our encounter and this has only reinforced my opinion. I think under the right circumstances it can really change a lot of things for you personally and bring a new found happiness to your life.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What did you think about this story? Tell us in the comments, just be nice!
You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!