by Alice

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White British
Current location: Manchester, UK
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Legal Secretary
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic, almost atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Casual Rebound Fling With A Total Moron

How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago

How would you best classify this hookup? A rebound fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 23, half Russian and tattooed. Definitely the most attractive guy I’ve ever slept with. Unfortunately though he turned out to be a complete idiot. He tells the stupidest lies about his life I have ever heard. He has apparently wrestled and killed a bear.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He messaged me on Facebook just chatting but I knew what he wanted. I had just become single for the first time since I had met him so it was fairly obvious. We planned for me to go round to his the next week and have a drink and ‘watch a film :p’. In the end though I went out the Friday before this and got very drunk and horny and texted him basically inviting myself over.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex, i passed out naked and then when I woke up we had sex again. And it was pretty damn good. He was also very affectionate which I liked seeing as I was fresh out of a long term relationship and i wasn’t ready and able to go straight from that to straight up just fucking. I had never even considered not cuddling someone after sex. It was nice until I started to slowly realise what a tit he really was. He told me he thought I was amazing and he wanted us to get together but I basically said no. Eventually I went onto his phone gallery (to look at a picture I’d just taken, not just noseyness) and found an album of profile pictures of girls he had saved from Facebook. And they were all 16-18. I decided to just leave and then I messaged him telling him that he should delete those photos and that I didn’t want to see him again.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I never orgasm from penetration. I pretend to though, which I probably shouldn’t but it’s just become a habit. He never did though. He said he had mastered it through meditation, which he supposedly did for an hour every day (although I’d stay for several days at a time end never saw him do it once), but I think it was more to do with an unhealthy amount of wanking.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed STIs and we both said we were clear, although I feel like I shouldn’t have believed that. No condoms, but he never came anyway.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I have a high sex drive and he was fit and i was rebounding.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I was sometimes drunk, he was almost always stoned.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went round drunk after a night out with his housemate and his girlfriend after I had ended things and made the mistake of trying it on with him. I got naked when he was out of the room and sat on his knee and went in for a kiss when he came back in. He sort of ducked out of the way and told me he wanted a girlfriend not casual sex and basically pushed me off his knee.  To be fair I had woken him up before his alarm just before his first day at a new job (I didn’t know). When he came back from work though he initiated sex for before changing his mind and stopping after about 30 seconds.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Loads of people. It was mostly met with a ‘you can probably do better’ type of reaction. Although most people agreed it was fine to sleep with him once I realised I didn’t like him because he was fit.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really, I enjoyed the sex and got closer with all his friends so I got something good out of it

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It helped me fight the loneliness of the breakup and made me more open to casual sex. The worst was sleeping with someone who I found very annoying. It gave me more confidence in myself too.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I’m now sleeping with his friend. Mwahahaha

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