What’s your gender? Trans man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Sales and marketing
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Casual Sex with a married man

How long ago did this hookup happen? Still happening

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s an older, married guy. Not classically handsome but I find him irresistible.
He answered my Craigslist ad, in which I was seeking casual, preferably ongoing, sex with a man. We chatted online for about 50 messages over some time before we hooked up. He sounded easygoing. Was honest about being married. Usually I would never consider a married man, but certainly glad I did.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I invited him to my place, and a few days later he came over.
Originally it was going to be a threesome, but the other guy backed out.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Mutual oral, penetrative sex. No kissing or intimacy.
Initially we were both nervous. Once we got into it it was awesome.
Sex with him is mind blowing. He really knows how to please. He lasts for ages. He’s respectful and openminded, confident and easy to please. As he takes so much care to ensure he’s pleasuring me, I really enjoy doing the same for him.
We didn’t really talk, just suggested we have another meet up and he left. Perfect.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup we planned another about a week later, didn’t happen. About 2 weeks later it did. The next day I was so excited about the thought of having another mind blowing sex session with him. I hope to continue our NSA sex for as long as possible, he’s one of the best I’ve had. Very sexually compatible.
He’s married so there’s no future.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best mate. He’s was excited for me. I’d had a few casual hookups lately and none of them had given me any sexual satisfaction.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The awesome sex with a hot guy with a great attitude.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he’s married, so we can’t have more frequent NSA sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I now see that you can have mind-blowing sex without being in a relationship. Up until now, no casual sex has been overly satisfying (sexually) for me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Simply from my experience, more mature guys ( as long as they’re still relatively fit ) are better lovers.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is great, as long you’re safe (protection or STI testing). Also, to ensure nobody is emotionally hurt he honest with yourself and your sex partner about expectations.
Casual sex has been great for me as I currently am not ready to have a relationship, but I have an extremely high sex drive.
Please note here, I would never judge I am just making a comment…. I think it’s a shame there are so many married men out there seeking extramarital sex ( without their wives consent/ knowledge). Most guys that answered my ad are married. I could never be in a relationship where my sexual needs weren’t being met. Nor would I ever want my partner to be sexually unsatisfied. It’s not everything, but it’s an important part of bonding, etc.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s very interesting reading about others’ experiences. Also great to have the opportunity to share mine.

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