What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 49
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Hamburg, Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Controller and adult teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1994
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her at a seminar. She was a little older than me and owned a catering company, hence the title. I did not know her at all, but I though she was hot. It was a seminar about man-woman-relationships, and several other people had been hooking up, so directness was the order of the day.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I walked up to her and asked her if she would have sex with me. She said no. The next day, I was walking at the edge of the nude beach, carrying some groceries, and she waved to me. She motioned me to sit down opposite her. She sat in front of me, legs spread on the bench, and suggested that we get together for dinner.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had a nice dinner. Being the young naive nice guy that I was, I gave her a lot of compliments. Then she suggested that we go to my room. She was a smoker, so I sent her to gurgle and get rid of the smoke breath. Since I am very enthusiastic about giving oral, I gave her a lot, she gave me some, then we had vaginal sex. I liked that she was hot. Not necessarily extremely pretty, but not ugly either. Hot. I felt very relaxed and OK with her. She knew all the right moves, was very self-confident and allowed me to get very passionate.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We met once again, but the sexual energy was too low. She gave me a half-hearted handjob at the beach, and we spent the rest of the seminar week on friendly terms.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Talked about it casually to friends. They nodded.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? She was super-hot and so relaxed that I had a great feeling.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing really
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had more short flings than lasting relationships. I would like these hookups to happen more naturally and without any shaming on anyone from anyone.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very cool. Maybe this helps to show people how common hookups are and makes it more normal in more people’s perspective.
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