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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 48
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Antonio
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Medical Doctor
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bisexually open
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Catfished for Gay Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup?

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Hispanic man. Attractive.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was catfished for gay sex. I met this “woman” on a swinger site and “she” was super eager to have a threesome with her husband. Her husband was bi and wanted to suck my cock and if I was willing, fuck him in the ass. The “woman” was hot. Lots of good sexy pictures. The plan was for them to come over to my house and she would “catch him” sucking my cock or me fucking him. That morning, she texted she was running late. He arrived first. He was Hispanic and okay looking. Clean and healthy. He and I chatted for a while and then while he was standing in front of me, I received her text saying get started. Leave the front door open and she would find us in some sex act. I was totally sold.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He and I went to the bedroom. He showed me some new pics of his “wife” and then we stripped naked and he began to blow me. When he got me hard, he wanted me to fuck him in the ass so I put a condom on and began fucking him. After a few minutes, she had not appeared yet. I asked if we should check on her. He wanted me to keep fucking him. He exploded his cum all over the bed. I never came. I had an erection and the idea of fucking a man in the ass and making him cum was a little appealing but I was waiting for the wife.
After he came, he cleaned up and said she wasn’t coming. I was pissed. I made him hurry and GTF outta my house.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like an idiot. I did not like getting punked. The text while I was there was convincing and frankly, I never suspected otherwise at that point.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave a clear ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? I was catfished and fooled. Shame on me. Won’t happen again. I told the guy he was a scumbag for all the trouble he went to.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Him leaving.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? There was no wife. I got fooled.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Makes me realize how intoxicating anticipated sex is and how it clouds judgment.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I hadn’t had gay sex for 30 plus years. I am willing to have it, as a top, but not with someone scamming me. I think I could really get off fucking another man in the ass. I liked making him cum.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is absolutely fantastic and acceptable to any enlightened person. No tricks though.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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