What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Macau
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? experimenting
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Caucasian men prefer asian women.
How long ago did this hookup happen? a few days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him on tinder, I was on vacation and thought I might start swiping. I had my own hotel room so it was the perfect place to meet up. He’s French but also speaks Italian. He didn’t mind the age difference at all, probably because of the yellow fever (attraction to asian women). I was skeptical when we first texted, he was very forward. He wanted to see me immediately, but I waited a night to actually reply.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? In my hotel room. I didn’t expect things to escalate that quickly, but he was very full on. Because him being rough with me came by surprise I was even more turned on. I picked him up from the lobby and I didn’t expect this all to happen…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out. The way he touched me was phenomenal. He spoke in a foreign language, at that point I didn’t care what he was saying anymore, it just had such a strong effect on me. Next thing I knew I was grinding on him, and then we made love. I can only say it felt amazing. And then of course cuddles and eventually morning sex.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Now that I’m home again, I’m starting to miss him. My friends call it “having feelings for someone”, but I have no idea to be honest. If I replay all the things we did in my head, it turns me on so much and I just want him to come visit. I’m so damn attracted to him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my guy friends, who think more liberal about me hooking up with men. I was worried as to what society would think of me “sleeping around”, but they really helped me gain confidence in myself.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? That he’s so far away. I still don’t know what he thinks of me and I’d love to know but I haven’t got the courage to ask directly.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The amount of fun I had and being able to relax and have a great night.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His tongue was too deep in my mouth, but honestly I couldn’t care less.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Casual sex seems great, but as a young girl it’s difficult, as the society I grew up in judges girls like me, who are willing to have casual sex. This hookup made me feel way more confident about my body and the way I look.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s a double standard kind of thing. Men get praised for sleeping with many women but it’s not the case vice versa. That in my opinion needs to change and girls need to be aware of this. Girls shouldn’t feel ashamed for wanting to experiment in bed with different men. “The lion doesn’t need to care what the sheep think of him.”
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Best way to open up.
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