What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Philippines
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Healthcare
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Caught in RED
How long ago did this hookup happen? 13 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 5’7, tan, lean body, with great smile. I met him at a gig. This is the same guy in the story I posted previously. I knew he had a girlfriend but I kept seeing him. We became very close after hooking up. We lived in different cities so we didn’t see each other regularly. Despite the distance, we called each other everyday. Whenever we get horny, we phone sex.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He called me one day to tell me he was in town. I was thrilled to see him so I packed a bag right away to spend the night with him. I lived away from my family so it was easy for me to go anywhere anytime without being questioned.
We checked in to a nice hotel and started making out as soon as we got inside our room. We were hungry so we stopped to buy dinner and brought it to our hotel. After eating, I asked if I could take a shower first before anything else happens. He teased me about taking a shower together but I didn’t let him. So he showered after me.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As soon as he got out of the shower, we started making out. I only had a towel wrapped around my body so it was easy for him to undress me. I started sucking his cock when his mom called. He mouthed telling me it’s his mom and asked me to keep quiet.
I was feeling naughty so I kept sucking his cock without making any noise. It was fun watching him with horny face while on the phone, occasionally biting his lip.
After the phone call, he went down and ate my pussy. It was awesome feeling his tongue down there. He stayed there for a while until I told him I couldn’t last any longer. I asked him to get inside me. He positioned himself to enter me. It’s been a while since the last time I had sex so I was tight. It was painful but we kept trying. I also felt cramping in my pelvic area. Few minutes later, I asked if we could try another time. The cramping was also getting worse so we stopped and just cuddled.
I got up to use the restroom. I pulled down my panties and saw blood. My period came. That explains the cramping and not being lubricated enough. I told him about it while laughing. He was disgusted at first because he was down there for a while. He said he didn’t smell or taste anything funny. I was glad to know that. I was worried he might be turned off but we had a good laugh.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Nothing changed between us after that. Our emotional connection was strong enough to be ruined by that experience. He eventually broke up with his girlfriend but our relationship status remained unlabeled. I was hurt because I already fell in love with him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Few of my friends. They had a good laugh about the period thing.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? He cheated on his girlfriend.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? There was emotional connection between us.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I fell in love with him but he didn’t want a serious relationship.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Casual sex is not for everyone.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Our communication started to dwindle after a couple of years because of long distance. We agreed to meet up to set things straight between us. He confessed that he was not ready to be in a serious relationship and he also started seeing other girls. I felt like my heart was stabbed many times. That was my first real heartbreak. I couldn’t help but cry in front him like a loser. He said we could still be friends but of course that’s not possible.
We didn’t talk for a long time. Five years later, he messaged me on social media. We chatted a little bit to catch up and later he asked me if I would like to meet up. I initially said yes but took it back. I moved on and finally over him. He’s a charmer and I was scared to fall for him again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is not for me.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A nice place to share your secrets anonymously.
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