by Duex John
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Cosmetologist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 34
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? March 18, 2018
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a nerdy, skinny black guy with braces. We met on Grindr and never hooked up before. I started texting him and was lucky enough to get his attention. He was cute and if I hooked up with him it would’ve been a prize for my records.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went to pick him up. I purposely have a car big enough to fuck in. Always wanted a 70’s van, but settled with a 2003 Suzuki. We agreed to meet up, and I think he was the one who instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We drove to a nearby park and stopped the car in the darkest spot that I could find. We moved to the back of my vehicle and began to make out. He was strongly passionate which turned me on tremendously. It was in no time that I pulled off his clothes and sucked and bit all parts of his body. His dick was huge and I sucked it with great effort, as I always do. I love sucking dick. He then pushed me to lay on my back as he undressed me and reciprocated. We exchanged blowjobs for a while before I finally turned him over and ate his ass out, shoving my tongue as deep into his asshole as I could go. Biting his ass cheeks while occasionally jerking him off. I then proceeded to finger him. He really liked that. I wish I slipped in another finger so I could see how much he could handle, but I decided that I wanted to fuck him, and so I did. I put on my condom and had him ride me. He wanted to cum so bad, but I forbade him from doing so. Watching a man ejaculate is my biggest turn on. We played with different positions, him on top of me and then me on top of him. The car windows got foggy. We finally decided it was time to cum so I watched him shoot his load before I shot mine on him. We then sat and cuddled for a bit. We talked and shared things about one another. He eventually wanted to go home, and so I drove him there, and never saw him again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was ecstatic. I wanted to see him again and tried reaching out to him, but I haven’t heard anything, so my only guess is that he only wanted to fuck once.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my close family about it. They know I hook up with people so they weren’t surprised by it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It happened on my previous relationship anniversary, so this hookup helped me feel like I could move on.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That the guy and I haven’t spoken since. I feel like this has been happening a lot more frequently with the people I hook up with.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I don’t want a simple one-night stand. I want someone who will actually care about me. Not to the extent of a significant other, but as a friend. I’m tired of being just a piece of meat.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m afraid that casual sex dehumanizes people and has changed their morals. It is fun and awesome, but something about it is sinister.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is awesome! I had fun sharing my story!
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