What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? teacher
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Cheated And Lost Virginity At High School Party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? His name was Josh, the guy I hooked up with, he was a grade above me, a senior, I was a junior. He was very cute, 6 pack, tall, broad shoulders, he played baseball. I don’t think I had spoken to him once. We met though my boyfriend introducing us I think, I thought he was really hot.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Me and my boyfriend went to a party, I got too drunk so he carried me to a room where I could sleep. I tried to do something sexual with my bf at this point but he refused saying I need to sober up a little. Josh just stumbled in I think like 10 minutes after that and started touching/kissing me. We were so drunk we didn’t realize what we were doing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I gave him a handjob at first an then he told me to blow him, I had never given a blowjob before so I ignored him, but he lowered my mouth onto his dick, this is when my boyfriend walked in and got really mad. For some reason, in my drunken haze, my boyfriend’s anger at me cheating made me even more horny so I took everything and told Josh to fuck me, idk why, he was so strong and cute, that was the first time I’d had sex, something I wanted to give to my boyfriend after years of dating, I still don’t know why I did this. It ended with me riding Josh while my boyfriend yelled at us.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Terrible, but so satisfied.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The whole party heard my boyfriend yelling so I tried to not talk to anyone haha.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I felt bad about cheating.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? feeling naughty
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? cheating on a really good guy
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes completely.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? it become less frequent
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? its cool
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