by Hannah

Gender: Female
Age: 26
Race/ethnicity: Indian
Current location: Mumbai
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Writer
Relationship status: Engaged
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Cheating

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years back

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was enagaged and him and i used to work together. He started crushing on me hard but i never bothered about him. and after a year of harboring feelings, he came clean about them. I didn’t want anything to do with him. But after I put in my resignation, during my notice period, we started hanging out and became close. He was handsome… Not so tall but clear skinned, thick, dark hair and brown eyes, quite a looker, a lot of girls used to fall for him. We went out drinking once and while dropping me home, he tried to kiss me. I resisted but there was something there. Made me curious.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a few days, we were alone in the conference room, sort of cornered me and tried to kiss me again. I didn’t resist. No planning on my part, at least, he had a condom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Lot of foreplay. He would bite my lips while kissing, suck on them..it was kinda kinky and exciting. He was a good lover until the time came for the kill and he couldnt penetrate.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? He did. I didn’t.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Just the condom. We didn’t discuss anything about our sti histories

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was at a time when my relationship got really difficult and my fiance had completely ignored my existence for a while. I guess that added to the excitement of having someone who everyone tlks about in the ladies room did the trick. Uncalled for, but that’s what happened.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There was no future although he kept asking me to break up with my fiance and go to him. I liked him but I didn’t see a future so it was best to cut ties. He started becoming too involved and possessive. I feel it was something that could have been avoided… Felt like a cheater and feel guilty for it.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. A friend knows about him trying to kiss me once.. But that’s it, nothing more.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual and wanted at the time by both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes. I had a fiance and however he behaved this is no way to deal with the situation. The takeaway from this was a lesson I’d never forget.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing was I realised why cheating is bad. Worst thing was emotions got entangled which is what usually happens in such situations. It has changed the way I think about relationships in general. There’s no reason why every relationship should end in marriage but there are some others you need to experience to learn things. This was one of them. Id like to think of myself more stable after that. The next time I’m presented with such a situation I’d not behave as naively and id do the right thing.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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