What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 36
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Shenzhen
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is Chinese around 5 ft 9. Slender. Beautiful tanned skin. Slim. Beautiful legs. She’s 32 years old. I have known her for a while. She used to work in the bar where I drink and I asked her out for a drink and dinner a few times. She has a boyfriend so didn’t much further usually. But she’s cool to hang out with and has good English. I always knew we would hook up eventually.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning involved. I met her for a coffee and she had moved apartment recently, which was nearby. After the coffee, I walked her home and asked to come up and see the apartment. She lives with another Chinese girl who wasn’t home. We went up and just sat on the couch talking.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? As we were talking a while, I felt myself getting hard just looking at her and after a while leaned over and rubbed her leg. She just carried on as if nothing was happening. This gave me confidence, so I moved closer and we kept on the conversation as normal. Soon, I was rubbing her tits and she was breathing heavier. I put her hand on my hard cock through my pants. She started stroking and we started kissing. I kind of ripped open her shirt and took off her bra and she undid my belt and took out my cock while still stroking. Not long after, I guided her head down and she started blowing me. The blowjob wasn’t great at first but I put one hand strongly on her shoulder and kind of pushed her mouth farther down my shaft. My other had was squeezing her right tit with the same rhythm as she was sucking me. I squeezed harder and pushed her shoulder down harder depending on how much of me she took in her mouth. Suddenly, she kind of stopped and said. “Don’t cum in my mouth, ok?” I mumbled ‘OK’ and put her back on it immediately. Not long after I came strongly in her mouth, squeezing her tit hard as I came. The first 2 or 3 spurts went in her mouth before she could retract. After those first spurts she came off my cock and I kept cumming on myself. She ran to the bathroom and rinsed her mouth out a few times. She was in there over five minutes so I gathered myself and zipped up my pants again. When she came out, I just said I had to leave.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It felt great to cum in her mouth as I’d been fantasizing about her for a while. I felt bad as she didn’t want me to cum there and she was a bit pissed that I didn’t tell her. I apologized via social media to her and asked if we were still friends. She said everything is OK and I’ve met her twice again for coffee. We haven’t talked about it since but I know she is unhappy with her relationship. I really want her to do it again and for me to rip her clothes off and bang her until she cums to say thank you
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? A little bit
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told some friends.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Cumming in her mouth and squeezing her tits.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The reaction just after.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really but I knew she didn’t want me to cum there but it was irresistible
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is what life is all about
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great
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