What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Tamworth
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Warehouse OP
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? N/A
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 38
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Christmas Party Hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner (I’ll call her Mariana) was a 45-year-old eastern European lady. We had both worked at the same large warehouse in the Midlands for nearly 3 years. We’d been friends for most of that time and would often car share as we lived fairly close to each other.
At work, she definitely wasn’t anything special. Our shift started at a ridiculously early hour and most of the women never bothered too much with make-up or doing their hair too nice. She’s short, around 5’2 or so, going towards being plump. The uniform we have to wear at work is extremely unflattering as well so she never really got a second glance from most people. Her best features were her eyes, which were a very clear blue. Her hair which when not tied in a ponytail went down past her shoulders and was a very nice red/brown. Her best and most noticeable features though were her tits which were extremely large for a woman of her size. Most of the lads at work, including me, wondered what they’d be like to get a hold of. Before the hookup, I’d class us as pretty good work friends. We’d occasionally flirt and she’d often mock me for my frequent casual flings with other girls in the warehouse. Barring the odd glance at her massive chest, I hadn’t ever really considered her as a potential sexual partner. At the time we hooked up she’d been married for 16 years. She had an 18-year-old daughter who had just started uni and another daughter, 14, who went to the local secondary school. Her husband was a thoroughly unpleasant guy. Tall, ugly and rude. She’d often complain about something he’d said or done.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It all happened at the work Christmas party. It took place at a large hotel in the city of Birmingham. The company had rented the function room and rooms both in the hotel itself and one across the road if people wanted to stay over. I was one of the lucky ones who got a room in the hotel where the party was. Myself and a couple of others had managed to persuade Mariana to come after refused the previous 2 years. I always enjoyed the Christmas party as there were always slutty night shift girls looking to get something and I was more than willing to provide them with whatever they needed. I’d hooked up at the previous 2 Christmas parties and was expecting more of the same. When Mariana showed up it was the 1st time I’d ever seen her done up. I’d seen her outside of work before, enough times to know that she was better looking than I’d originally thought but that night she looked great. Her hair was beautiful and her dress accentuated her body perfectly. I was impressed and told her she looked beautiful. Instead of my plan to find a night shift girl, I found myself spending most of my evening talking and joking with Mariana. We both had a couple of drinks and were definitely merry but not drunk. Nothing was planned, from my side anyway and I can’t imagine she had planned anything either. As the night went on we decided to head to our respective rooms, if I hadn’t been booked into the same hotel as her its likely nothing would have happened but as the lift reached her floor she asked if I’d like to come to her room for another drink. From her flushed face and embarrassed tone, I knew what she was really asking and I think she expected to be rejected but I was suddenly extremely horny at the thought of banging this middle-aged married woman so I said yes. We got to her room and within a few seconds our clothes were in a pile on the floor and we were naked on the bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The night that followed was one of the best sexual experiences of my life. Nothing out of the ordinary happened, despite being married for so long Mariana was not massively experienced in sex. She’d only ever been with her husband who was a missionary man whenever they occasionally had sex. I had been hooking up with women casually since I was 17 and was always trying as hard as possible to please whatever woman I was with at the time. Something about the combination just clicked. I was fairly gentle at first and really trying to please her which I later found out she was completely unused to. She came after about 15 minutes or so which set me off on my own, I had brought some condoms with me but they were in my room so I shot my load deep into her. We lay there for a few minutes and I was wondering if she regretted it then I felt her hand on my cock and within a minute or so we were at it again. The second time lasted longer and was much more frantic. I took her in a few different positions a couple of which she later told me she’d never done before due to her husband’s laziness and lack of imagination. She came several times, I’m still not sure if it was from me or the horniness she felt from banging a guy over 20 years younger than her in a hotel whilst her husband was at home. After I’d blown my load a second time we talked for a while. She told me about her extremely unsatisfactory sex life with her husband but also that she couldn’t leave him and we could never be together again after tonight. After an hour or of talking we went at it again, we came together again then both fell into a deep sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning we awoke, showered, assured each other we’d never tell anyone then went our separate ways. I certainly didn’t regret it at all. I felt slight guilt as she was married but it was more down to me thinking she would feel very guilty about cheating. I didn’t have any expectations or desire to have a relationship with her.
Working with her was a little awkward at first but we soon got back to the way thing’s were before. I noticed a few months afterward she’d started taking more care of her appearance at work. Wearing make-up, doing her hair that type of thing. I still am very fond of this woman. She left the warehouse over a year ago and I’ve not seen much of her since but we still talk on messenger and such.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve only ever told one person, my best friend, about it. He was shocked as he’d only ever seen her as an average looking, middle-aged woman.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Her reactions to me during sex. She later told me she was completely unused to someone actually trying to give her pleasure during sex and she was taken by total surprise by her body’s reaction to what I was doing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My regret afterward that she might feel guilty about cheating.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not at all.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We later started a longer, but still, casual affair that lasted for just under a year.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Till the last 18 months, most of my sexual experience was from casual hookups and flings. I regretted a few of them but wouldn’t change much. I’m now engaged to a wonderful woman and do not intend to cheat on her, though as of yet my resolve hasn’t been tested.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Seems like a good idea.
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