by LS

Gender: Female
Age: 22
Current location: Munich
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single and not looking for a serious relationship
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Circles, Circles, Circles

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is a really nice looking guy. Comes from Spain, but was working for some time in Munich. He has a really athletic body, so it was a teaser for my imagination before we hooked up!
But he is kinda short (or at least in comparison to all other German guys that tend to be really, really tall). But he was not shorter than me, so crisis averted!
We first met at a bar where I went to see friends, he was with his friends and we went outside, they followed. We talked for a while. You could see he was interested in me, but it was not unpleasant. So it happened that me and one of his friends had a common interest, kind of work related so I exchanged Facebook with his friend.
One or two weeks later we almost literally bumped into each other at a party. So we talked more and exchanged numbers. My friend that was with me would not stop saying that I should sleep with him, cause he seems cool and intelligent – which is actually the case, and I haven’t had sex for a while and she knew that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? That evening he said he had to leave the party earlier, but said he is going to text me later to come back to the party. So he did, but I didn’t want him to come back anymore cause I fell for another guy at the same party, that later came to be known in my circle of friends as the Most Beautiful Guy in the world (MBG). That is a different story that I am not going to get into right now. But basically I did not want to see the Spanish guy that night. 
So we texted I guess and went out for drinks the following week, it was nice but also kinda really calm, as if nothing special, but still I could feel a vibe, the chemistry.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So after this one date, he went on vacation for 2 weeks. I thought this is going to be it. But he did write me on Whatsapp, which kinda really surprised me. We texted quite often. Eventually the conversation would drift into conversation topics like oral sex and he then mentioned that he loves to go down on girls. I got pretty excited about making that happen. 
Then two days after he came back in Munich we saw each other. We had two glasses of Spanish wine in a bar and then we went for a walk that was just a pretext to go somewhere more private so that he could kiss me. 
So he did! 
And it was not good. I mean too much tongue and it was so fast… But the only thought on my mind was: “If he does that with his tongue to my lips I definitely wanna feel it somewhere else!” So I didn’t mind the not so pleasant kisses. 
So we went to his place, it was a really nice place. 
I put on some music, he turned on the cool lights we talked for a while and then GO!
I think he went down on me first and… OMG… he did stuff, I don’t even know what he did, but the orgasm was so intense! And got me there so fast, it was unbelievable considering that I don’t get there easily. I think the magic was in the fact that he had a finger in me that he was not moving back and forth, but keeping inside and making those kind of circles, then he was switching with two finders inside, then one again. 
So I was pretty happy and wanted to go down on him. Show some of my skills! Did that for a while but then he went to get a condom and we started the sex part. 
We started with me on top. Not for long, then switched to Missionary. And then I noticed: “What is he doing? Why is he not moving back and forth, but kinda still making those circles?” 
So yeah, basically he was going for it the ordinary way, he was fucking me in circles… 
After we switched – I laid on my belly with just a little of my legs open, I think this was more comfortable for him to make his circles… (Haha)
It’s not that it was unpleasant, the sex was nice and his behaviour was nice, I liked it, but this circles, was a bit too much. 
After that we fell asleep, I don’t remember what we talked about. His bed was big enough so that we did not disturb each other during the night, I liked that! I felt super comfortable there. The morning he woke up before me, to get ready for work, I woke up like 15 mins later. He had made a glass of freshly pressed orange juice for me. That was really nice. We talked a bit about life, he talked about money, he often talked about money, about plans for the future and after that he had to go, so we left. 
So to put it loud and clear: 
Oral sex: 10/10 
Sex Performance: 5/10 (circles too confusing) 
Penis size: 7/10 (10 being: “This is the perfect penis for me”, not centimetres!!!) 
Body: 8/10 
Personality and behaviour: 7/10

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both had orgasms!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Condom
And as I am always concerned if everything is ok, I always either ask my partner if everything is alright or try and check myself, take a look, whenever we finish.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I liked him and thought it could be a nice experience for me. He also seemed like a nice person, so I had no reason not to do it!

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? As I said two glasses of wine, just enough to make it chill.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Ok so that’s interesting. In that time I had a fuck buddy and things with him were really cool and super chill. But still I was exploring other options, so the Spanish guy was one of the options and I definitely wanted to sleep with him again. So we continued texting, every two days or so. He would often sent me texts in relation to oral sex and how he likes to do it just like that without asking how I was doing or anything else and he never asked if I wanted to go out with him again. So eventually I got kind of confused – “Why would he write every two days and never ask me out?”, and had enough of this out-of-nowhere-sex-conversations, so I decided the next time he texts me something of this kind I will send him a nice long message to explain him some stuff. 
The text was the following: 
“I dont really get the point of those random pussy-licking-conversation-starters! First I consider we can talk about other stuff than just that and if you would want to talk about other stuff – ask me out! If you dont you can just stop writing cause i dont see the point! 
You dont seem like someone that liked to waste their time in general so if you dont have an idea why you are writing to me it’s definitely wasting my time and your time. And I know you dont want that… Neither do I!”
And I got a hell of reaction! Saying what a bad week he had and that our conversations are like this cause I am also not making a big effort. Eventually he said that he wants to see me again! WIN! The next day he invited me for lunch at his place, he had friends over, we had something traditional spanish, it was nice. His friends left, we went chilling on the balcony. Then he said he wants to take a nap, I joined and we chilling in his room on the bed for a while, made out a little. But I was not feeling comfortable enough to have sex with him so I decided to leave and also didn’t wanted to spend a nice sunny afternoon having sex, so decided to leave and go meet my friends. The spanish guy texted me later that night when he woke up from his nap, he said he might join me and my friends out, but he never did. But it was ok for me – I had a great night, so actually am happy he did not came with us! 
So it was a nice experience – I liked that he reacted on my message like this, I was not expecting that kind of reaction. I was expecting for him to insult me in a way and say I am crazy and overreaction – the banal things guys say to girl whenever they have a strong opinion and state it loud and clear. But no he was responsive, so I did appreciate that! 
I’m glad I saw him again even though we did not had sex. 
A while after I texted him if he wants to meet, because the following week I was moving away from Munich, so wanted to see him again. Turned out he is on vacation again and we realised we won’t be able to meet again, but he did send me nice texts so I would definitely feel comfortable to contact him again, whenever I have something to ask, say or if I am around to meet again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To some girlfriends. 
They laughed when I was describing the circles during the sex! But I did also mention the oral performance.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and yes!

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No. 
We ended on good terms and I feel comfortable to contact him again.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The Best thing: Him going down on me
The Worst thing: Not to exaggerate it – it was not that bad but the sex was probably not the best in my life, I was not used to that. 
The Influence: On casual sex – it can be fun, but there should be mutual respect, treat the other person as a person not as a sex toy, I mean I can see myself going for dinner with my casual sex partner, as long as it’s fun and we both have it clear in our heads that this has nothing to do with the sex or any kind of feelings; It did not influence my opinion on sexuality; But definitely the experience did make me see sides of myself I have not seen before – like this kinda bitchy girl that send this in a  way arrogant message just to see what will follow, but I did enjoy it, because first I felt like I control the situation, I continued to receive attention and all this just because I did send one straight forward message. I consider that more people must be like this clear in what they want and not be afraid to say it out loud, it will always bring something good, even it is not what you wish to have in the moment.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Have fun! But protect yourself – yes, use a condom, but also protect yourself emotionally.

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