What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What country and/or city do you live in? Dominican Republic
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Administrative Assistant
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s short and kinda chubby with a pretty face. We’ve known each other for about a month/two months we had a couple classes together that semester and we started talking. At first I wasn’t attracted to him at all but as we talked more I felt somewhat attracted to him and he smelled SO good!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One night, at that point in the semester that’s so stressful you feel like you’re going to fail everything he says he could go for a beer and I told him to take me with him (I didn’t think he was serious), he said OK and we went to a place near school and we start drinking and talking, I had broken up with my bf not long ago so I told him everything, how bad I felt, etc and from there we talked relationships and ended up discussing sex and kinky stuff. I already was curious about him and that night I had my mind set in making out with him, so I asked him to take me home, at that point and because I was taking a medication, I was pretty tipsy, he was parked on a dark spot so as we approach his car, without thinking I kiss him on the cheek
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So he grabs me by the arm and sits me on the passenger seat and stars kissing me and touching me, I didn’t think about the possibility of him rejecting me but how enthusiastic he was surprised me. We moved to the back seat and he fingers me more, he spits me and started saying dirty stuff to me, I was so wet and so excited, he was hard and told me to suck his dick, which I did till he came, his cum tasted really good, which was good as I find cum to taste awful, I swallowed it all, we ended up cuddling a bit and making small talk and then he took me home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great, I’ve never done something like that before and felt good having that experience, the only think I was expecting was intercourse which sort of happened some months later.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Two of my friends, they didn’t say anything bad.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact that this was the first time I had a sexual partner for whom I didn’t have any other interest but sexual, was not attracted to other than to fck, so no heart breaks and no hard feelings
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? To attest that some younger guys (he’s 10 years younger than me) want everything given to them, they take a lot for granted
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not particularly.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The age gap, I have always felt attracted and have always been involved with older guys so being so relaxed around a guy with such a big difference was new to me. We hooked up a couple times more in his car, and one day I went to his house and we started having sex, didn’t do the whole thing and that was the last time we saw each other.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have always feel hesitant to have sex with a complete stranger but again there’s something so liberating in going at it with no ties and no feelings. I’d like for people to be less judgemental about what others want to do with their bodies.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Just discovered it today looking for something and it is very interesting to read other people’s motivations behind a casual sex and seeing the many different POVs about their own experiences.
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