What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10-12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ll call her Pauline. She was a tall Latino woman, great looking, long black hair, white skin and brown eyes. She had a shapely body and a pair of amazing tits. Pauline and I had been in a relationship a couple of years before this fling happened. After having been dating for a couple of months, she took a temporary job at a city two hours away from where we lived at the time. We decided to keep on the relationship. She claimed we vowed to make the effort to see each other every weekend and call each other often, text, etc.
That did happen for the next couple of months and we kept seeing each other often. After a while, however, I noticed she wouldn’t pick up the phone, and claimed the job was so demanding she couldn’t see me so often. I thought she was two-timing me and eventually, I did find out she was fucking some colleague of hers. We ended the relationship in somewhat bad terms.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A couple of years later things had changed a lot for me. For starters, I got married and moved from my hometown. I knew Pauline did too but she remained single. We got in touch again through social media and chatted a bit. She apologized for cheating, I said I did not care anymore, etc. Soon after that, I was visiting my hometown and noticed she was too through her FB profile. I texted her and asked if she wanted to get together. We planned to meet up for coffee two days later. We met at a coffee shop and caught up on our lives. I had one thing in my mind however, I wanted to fuck her again. Before continuing I have to disclose that I absolutely loved fucking her. I loved her body, her scent, I loved the way she moaned. She was actually one of the best fucks I had ever had. She had a way to entice me that drove me crazy. She was the type who would whisper dirty talk in your ear and wait for you to fuck her harder and she would move her hips like a goddess. She was that type of woman that seemed to have been born to fuck. Which was part of the reason I was so pset about her cheating on me. Anyhow, back to the story, when we met at the coffee shop I started to flirt with her openly. I anted my moves by placing my hand on her leg, moving it up her groin, etc. To the point, I just asked her if she wanted to fuck. She said yes and we agreed to meet at a hotel later.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a discreet hotel later that day. The minute we were alone, we went at it like animals. We started to make out, kissing passionaltely and feeling each other up like when we were together. She started to undress to reveal she was wearing sexy lingerie. I appreciated that a lot and that was something we did when we were together, too. She knew I would like it and it just turned me on more. I was rock hard and after she blew me for a while I could not take it anymore and wanted to fuck her properly. I fucked her from behind very vigorously. I can’t deny I was still angry at her for having cheated on me and having blown the relationship. After our breakup, I actually told her I would have preferred that she fuck her colleague but told me about it, and I would have probably put up with it. That’s how much I liked her. But the lack of honesty was not something I could live with. All these feelings of anger and betrayal just made me fuck her harder. We moved to missionary and she did her thing, whispering dirty things in my ear and making me even hornier. I pulled out and she sucked me dry. We lied on the bed for a while and finally decided to shower, together, where we fucked again. It was fucking fantastic!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt a bit bad about it because I cheated. That was precisely the thing I could not forgive about Pauline but I did it too. Pauline and I did not talk about it at all afterward. When we were together, she told me when she was single in her life, she would have casual sex and felt very detached about it. Like come, fuck, get dressed, see you later. I guess she felt the same way about me that day. It was just sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Revenge / Getting even
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was an amazing fuck. It also gave me ‘closure’ about that relationship and its bitter end.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? When I was younger I never had that much casual sex. I regret that. Casual sex is amazing and everybody should have a more open approach to it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.
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