What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Chicago
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Physician
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sex addict
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Lost count, somewhere between 50 – 60.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Coffee Girl One Night Stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup?
While on lunch break at work I headed down to the cafeteria. I was standing in line at a coffee shop when I heard two girls speaking in Spanish behind me. This caught my attention as I was not used to hearing Spanish since moving to this part of the USA. Both of them are brunettes. The one I liked had long black hair, white tanned skin, brown eyes, her nice ass caught my attention while I was checking her out. Without being invited to the conversation I chimed in and gave my two cents. Before I knew it these two girls were really interested in what I had to say. Since we were at a line and I had to get back to work after some small talk, I obtained the attractive girl’s phone number and went on my way.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? That night I called her and she told me she was going to go out with some friends and that I was welcome to join her. I decided to go by myself as my usual wingman was out of town that weekend. When I showed up at the bar, she was there with three other female friends and two guys. I hung out with them for a while and chatted with her friends and had a good time with her crew. At around 1 am they decided they wanted to go to a different bar that was a few minutes away. I had driven to the bar so she told them she would ride with me to the other venue. On our way to my car, she pushed me against the side of the road and we started making out. She then told me to drive to her apartment.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to her place and the making out resumed pretty intensely. She took my clothes off pretty quickly and before I knew it, she was giving me a blowjob in the living room. She was pretty forceful and rough so I just figured she wanted it the same way. I pulled firmly her hair to have her stop so I could undress her and we moved into the bedroom. In the bedroom, I realized I did not have a condom so she went into her roommate’s room and stole a couple from his dresser. The first time I have sex with a girl, I usually try really hard to last for a while and to get hints from them of what they like and don’t like, that has always netted me sex buddies for a while. Since I was attracted to her, I really wanted to leave a good impression, and since she was pretty rough there at the beginning, I thought I would do the same to her.
We had pretty rough sex for about 35-40 minutes. I remember the amount of time because (again, a quirk of mine) I tend to look at the watch when the sex starts and keep track of it just so I know how long we have been going at it so that I don’t orgasm too quickly. We did it missionary, doggy style and legs to the shoulders. She seemed to enjoy doggy the most, especially when I pulled on her hair. I did rub the outside of her asshole with my thumb to which she replied that it felt really good, so needless to say my thumb ended up in there while taking her from behind and she seemed to really like it. She said that she had two orgasms while having sex that first time. We had sex a second time again pretty rough a few minutes later. We then talked for a few minutes about our lives. She ended the night by going under the sheets and giving me a pretty good blowjob and I think, not sure, she swallowed. She did get a little upset when I told her I was leaving at around 4 am. I guess she wanted me to spend the night.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We met up a couple of times for just sex. After the third encounter, it became clear she wanted something serious, and I was not ready to be in a relationship. I was enjoying being single too much, so I stopped calling her. About 2 years later by coincidence I happened to be in the same city she moved to. While there I posted the conference I had attended on facebook. I guess she caught wind I was in town and sent me a text that night. She came over to the hotel I was staying in and we had sex two more times those two days. I came to find out later she was engaged to this other guy when that last encounter happened. I felt bad for the bloke, but I was not about to go say anything. I have always thought it is a bad idea. We are still Facebook friends and I know about her from time to time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Power / Dominance, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with someone I had just met who I found attractive
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It hasn’t
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love it, more people should practice it.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like reading other people’s stories. They make me horny.
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