What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? On and off
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 22
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
Coke, Partying, and Two Guys in One Night
How long ago did this hookup happen? A week ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Guy number 1 is tall and slim, dark and quite attractive with a nice smile. Guy number 2 is also really tall, but more bulky. He probably was a football player.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? This was a large party my friends and I went to on our campus. I was having a hard time with my boyfriend so my friends had convinced me to come with them. I was wearing boyfriend jeans, a crop top and a jacket and was looking pretty good (to be frank), but still wasn’t really in the mood. The party started around 6 and was kinda low key at first as we had kinda arrived too early. I drank a bit and danced but really wasn’t too much in the mood. After some time my friend came to me looking hyper, and telling me she had just done the best line of coke ever. She pointed me out to the dealer, and I went up to him cause I really needed something to get me active. He lead me upstairs, and we did a little, and yeah this coke was pure. But then this asshole refused to give me the coke for money, saying that he wanted ‘something else.’ I refused of course, telling him to fuck off, and then went back downstairs.
Back downstairs, I talked to some more people, andBut he was persistent, and cute. And I have to admit that his evil grin and asshole behavior was quite attractive in a weird way. I pushed him away the first time he tried to dance with me, but by the second time I was kind of flattered. This time he actually introduced himself to me like a normal human and we talked about a few things (Funny side story; his ‘street name’ is actually silver tongue -I never actually found out his real name-, which he’s called because he’s good at talking his way out of stuff but also because he’s legendary at ‘muffdiving.’ I thought that was super funny, and kind of promising, and besides he seemed like a cool guy so we ended up making out, and going upstairs for a second time, but this time for sex. I was actually semi-drunk and very attracted to him, and did not fuck him w the intention of getting drugs.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end?
Upstairs we kept making out for a bit, before he moved down to nuzzle my neck, and then my breasts, before eventually moving down past my stomach and towards the inner thigh. I let him take off my thong, and then he proceeded to gently lick the outside. He took his time, but good God he was good. He was gentle, took his time slowly licking the outside and then making his way in, and gently arousing my clit, after which he rubbed it, twirled his tongue around and even gently sucked and nibbled on it. He even used his fingers nicely. Basically, it was awesome. After I came we drank, and did a line of coke, before I let him get on top of me and fuck me. I felt like I owed him that at least, and besides he wasn’t that bad and I had brought condom along for something like this. After he was done he left me his number and one gram of coke for free, which was really nice of him. I remember taking my time up there, doing several lines before I came back downstairs high.
Back downstairs I was now in the mood to party (I think it was still quite early, around 9 or 10.) I danced, drank a lot and eventually went home with a different guy that I had made out with earlier. I was completely wasted and besides this guy was hotter and taller than the first guy, so I thought why not. I only vaguely recall the rest of that night, but I know he found the coke I had and we did the entire gram in one night, and had a lot of crazy sex. I remember it was amazing, but the details are kinda hazy.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was pretty sure we had not used a condom so when I woke up I quickly went home to take a morning after pill. I haven’t seen either guy since then. I might contact the first for drugs but otherwise I don’t foresee any more contact.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. They were pretty happy that I was being more sexually open again, as I was leaning towards more conservative attitudes towards sex before this.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Best oral I’ve ever had, for one. The coke was great and enhanced the second hookup, though I was also wasted by that time. Two guys in one night is also pretty cool and not something I’ve done before.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Have to keep it secret from my bf, even though strictly speaking (in a way) we weren’t together during that week. Otherwise nothing, it was great.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, it was fun and showed me that more conservative attitudes towards sex are not what I want in my life right now.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m now looking for my bf to accept an open relationship as I really want to continue to experiment and experience new things and new people. I’m not sure what I will do if he doesn’t accept, probably break up with me because for me it’s very important to have fun while I am young and not married.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think a lot of people who don’t experience casual sex have an overly negative opinion about it. For me, it’s a separate thing from sex for love and I enjoy both but in separate ways. Even my religion teaches an unhealthy view of love, although I don’t think it’s inherently against casual sex but the interpretation is. I would like to see these things changed.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its’ great! good job!
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