by Ella
Gender: Female

Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White British
Location: Turkey
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Travel Rep
Religious affiliation: Far right Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Open to Anything at Least Once
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0


Colleagues with Benefits

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’d just started a new job abroad with a holiday company, working and living in Turkey for six months. We’d all met at Gatwick before flying out to Dalaman, and I met him there. At first I thought he was gay, he was excessively well groomed, and very into his appearance. We hung out on my balcony for a while in Turkey, and had this very deep conversation, in which we discovered we had quite a lot in common, and I discovered he wasn’t, in fact, gay. At this point, I had begun to become attracted to him, both his personality and his looks, but thought him to be way out of my league. There was flirty banter, but nothing that I judged to be too serious.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The whole team was out for drinks during a two night stopover, and we ended up sitting next to each other. We had both drunk copious amounts of alcohol, and when the power started to switch on and off, he and I decided to take a walk down to the beach, then head back to the hotel. One thing led to another, and before either of us knew what was really happening, we were full on making out on the beach. I had a twin room to myself, so I invited him back to my place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got back to my hotel room, we were all over each other. We undressed each other quite viciously, then he kissed, licked and nibbled almost every part of my body. We switched positions frequently, and between fingering/oral/more kinky stuff, like playing around with domination. I orgasmed twice, him once, through self stimulation. Neither of us had a condom with us, so he didn’t penetrate me, we just got a little creative.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Because we didn’t have any protection, we didn’t engage in penetrative sex.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I’d wanted him since I realized he wasn’t gay, and apparently he’d had his eye on me too. With the influence of alcohol, neither of us had any inhibitions.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, we were both drinking, quite a lot, but not enough to impair memory.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After, he went back to his room, and we both remarked how awkward it would be for us in the morning. I didn’t regret it, and I don’t think he did either, as we ended up hooking up again a few days later. We’ve agreed to a friends with benefits arrangement, and we’re seeing each other this weekend.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t originally tell anyone what had happened, but he had left rather obvious love bites all over my neck, which people then came up to me and questioned. They were surprised at first when they found out, as I come across very sweet and innocent.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Definitely consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not really, it was enjoyable and fun, and we have a nice friendship which hasn’t really been affected.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? This has definitely opened up my mind to the whole friends with benefits arrangement, before I was quite skeptical, whereas now it seems much more like a good arrangement, when you find the right person for it to work.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

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