by Hin
Gender: Female

Age: 26
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Lexington, MA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Live-in Nanny
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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College Crush Conquered

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This was a guy who was really good friends with my best friend. They grew up together and were roommates sophomore year of college. I had the biggest crush on him for at least 2 years, and after that always found myself very attracted to him. We were definitely friends and had hung out a lot. There has always been a flirtation/sexual tension.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook up was completely random. I was up visiting my best friend for the weekend, and in the morning she randomly got a text form him saying he would be down with some friends for the day and wanted to meet up. So we all got a beer, and we offered for them to crash with us. They were doing their own thing, but then a little while later called back to say they would be staying and partying with us. So we all got pretty drunk, and at the end of the night there weren’t enough places for people to sleep. My friend’s roommate (who used to be my roommate) wasn’t coming home, so my friend had me sleep in her bed, but we were still one sleep space short, so she said “Hey —, you can either sleep on the floor or share the bed with [me]” and he chose to share it with me. This is funny because earlier in the day she had SPECIFICALLY instructed me not to hook up with him, which I hadn’t even THOUGHT about doing since we have been friends for so long now I didn’t think it was a possibility. So he follows me upstairs and into the bathroom and I was like “Um hi I’m trying to brush my teeth?” and he just grabbed my face and started to make out with me and I knew it was game on from there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Well, the first thing he did was ask me to sit on his face, which I thought was a joke because no one has asked me that before, but I guess he’s into it so we exchanged some oral, then had sex (vaginal). For being drunk sex it was pretty good and I was super into it, but neither of us orgasmed, probably because we were both drunk, and I was starting to fall asleep because this had been going on for 2 hours and I was really tired. We didn’t talk about much except just dirty talk, and it ended when I rolled off and fell asleep. The next morning he had morning wood so I gave him a hand job I guess as a consolation prize?

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Unfortunately no because we were drunk, and we didn’t use a condom, but he didn’t ejaculate.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I have always found myself attracted to him, and I would say it was a fulfillment of a fantasy, or maybe a conquest. Either way it made me want to go back and high-five my 20 year old self and be like “just be patient, it happens!”

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. Lots. Vodka, tequila, beer, and a little adderall.

I felt fine. I felt like I achieved a long standing goal. Someone who I thought was unattainable was attainable. We weren’t awkward at all. We didn’t have any communication beforehand, and he lives 4 hours away from where I live so there didn’t seem much of a point staying in touch. I’m sure we’ll see each other again because we have lots of mutual friends from college, good friends. Who knows what will happen?

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a handful of friends and they all thought it was a great story.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best was that it happened, and that he went down on me, and he had a PERFECT penis. The worst part was towards the end of the night when I was tired and getting kind of dry, and that I didn’t orgasm, and the sober next morning hand job (ugh).

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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