by ABeginnerToHookUp
Gender: Female

Age: 31
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Location: New York
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Education
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? I love dick?!
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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College Senior from the Net

How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a good looking Asian male in his 20s. Pretty muscular. I did not know him at all before I hooked up with him. We were chatting online, decided to meet up (knowing that there would be some sort of a hookup involved), met up, had sex, etc. I didn’t feel much about the guy before I hooked up with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went online, chatted with this guy and just decided to give him a chance. There was almost no planning, other than  deciding when and where to meet up, etc.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The guy brought me to his bed when we got to his place. Disrobing happened. Then we kissed. He used his hand on me first. There was no oral action, no anal, etc. The guy did seem to like my boobs (I’m stacked). He tried ‘titty-fucking’ with them. I think he wanted me to suck on my own boobs since they were big enough for my tongue to reach. That seemed to turn him on.

I spent the night at the guy’s place. I did not orgasm. I basically spread my legs and let him do whatever he wanted. I did not feel anything amorous. The guy was not a creep, but he acted like a kid in a candy store when I spread my legs. He was an OK lover. I liked that he did not ask me to do oral on him.

Oh yea, not realizing that it takes time for the guy to recover, I kept making the moves on him to keep caressing me, kissing me, etc. He seemed to like that energy in me because he probably thought that I liked sex that much. (I just liked the feeling of someone appreciating my body.)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None. I know. That’s the only stupid part. I did take the morning after pill. Thankfully, I didn’t catch anything.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was curious about sex. I had my first sexual encounter in a casual hookup (I don’t regret it). From an early age, I grew up in a very religious environment where premarital sex was highly discouraged. There was so much talk about sex in college. I became curious. After my first experience, I felt “what, that’s it?!” and felt cheated out of life.

So I wanted to experience as much as possible – kinda like making up for the lost time I guess. Internet seemed like a good way to stay anonymous and experiment.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The guy kept fondling my boobs in the morning – he liked them a LOT.  *rolls eyes*

I felt like I was no longer a kid the morning after, kinda like I opened my eyes to the ‘adult world’ that I wasn’t exposed to before. I didn’t expect much from this person emotionally. He wanted an ongoing fuckbuddy relationship with me. I refused.

I don’t feel much of anything right now about the guy. The comment from him saying that I should try to lose a bit of weight was offensive though. (I was a US size 6-8 at the time.)

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told one of my friends about the experience. She was a bit shocked, only because she knew I came from a very religious background and did not seek sex before. I debated about pursuing a FWB with this guy. She frankly commented that I was doing too many things too fast. I agree. An ongoing FWB situation would have been too much for me to handle at that moment.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, it was a consensual experience. I was looking to experience something I have not really done too much of before (casual hookup). I think the guy was satisfied despite his comment about my weight.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret the hookup, but I think I should have sought after someone that I would have more info about. Other than the school the guy went to, everything about him was a lie. (I found this out when I did some digging on the internet with his email address, etc.) Oh well. We were anonymous partners in bed I guess. I should have insisted on being safer though.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best- I was taking the initiative to experience something I have not really experienced. That was liberating although a bit scary.

Worst- I was not attracted to the man I hooked up with. I also learned that sex does not equal love or emotional connection. That was breaking grounds to me from those days. I also realized much later that I could have insisted on using protection, etc.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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