by Sierra

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Middle Eastern
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Consent, Sexy. Queefing..Not So Much.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was at my best friend’s boyfriend’s backyard BBQ. The guy I went home with was his friend. Throughout the day and evening I had barely paid attention to him – we didn’t even say a single word to each other.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So we were all playing a drinking game in a circle, outside, and we took a small break transitioning to a new game. I quickly went to the bathroom. Once I came out to head back into the drinking game I was caught off guard by the guy sitting on the couch. “Come here and sit, I want to talk to you.” I awkwardly sat beside him slightly confused . He looked at me and said, “I think you’re pretty cute.” I agreed and said thank you jokingly. He laughed then proceeded to tell me he’s going home now. I congratulated him on his achievement. That is when he asked if I wanted to come along, maybe chill or something. That’s when I knew he didn’t want to just ‘chill,’ so I called him out. “Oh come on, don’t lie to me, if you want me to come over you might as well cut this bullshit and tell me the fucking truth.” He stared at me for a moment, pulled me up, took me outside and said, ” what do you want me to say?!” I replied: “THE TRUTH GOD DAMMIT!” To which he asked, “I would like you to come home with me because I want to have sex with you.” I looked him dead in the eye and said, “Okay.”

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So get this, we went to his parents house instead of his apartment because it was in closer proximity to where we were. Luckily they were out of town. Once we got in we straight away went at it, he was already fingering me like there was no tomorrow. That was when we quickly made it upstairs to the bedroom and he threw me on the bed. All of a sudden, I let out not just one…but a symphony of queefs. “Did that just happened?!?” I exclaimed. “Yes, yes it did,” he replied. Now because we were both extremely drunk we barely could have proper sex and went through about 4 condoms. I believe it was about 10 minutes of doggy style. At this point he asked for a blowjob and I told him to eat me out first. So he did. And I returned the favour. Except, in the process of giving him one, he called me dumb. I looked up and said “EXCUSE ME DON’T CALL ME DUMB.” And he mocked me in a very ‘dumb’ voice, which I responded back in the same tone. Once that 5 minute altercation was done, we started making out again, and as I bit his lip he freaked out at me. ” OW THAT HURTS STOP.” I was in utter shock…He actually didn’t like being bit and I was so disappointed. We then discussed rough sex and he admitted he was not into getting hurt so I told him to spank me, and so he did. But the next part I was unprepared for. He licked my asshole. I was confused because I felt disgusted yet pleasured at the same time. I told him to stop and got pissed off and in a sexy way grabbed his face. That’s when he slapped me in the face and asked if I liked that. I said no and he proceeded to slap me as he explained how awkward this is for him because he has a sister and would never disrespect a woman. Our drunken hook up ended in him letting a fart out and reminding me I queefed earlier. He also went downstairs and brought out a bucket of olives which we picked at in silence for a couple minutes. I booked a cab and left.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I did not know his name until my best friend called right after we hooked up asking “ARE YOU WITH ‘_____’?!?” She was in disbelief, so was everyone else because we never even communicated during the party. We had discussions of making it a regular thing but it never happened. I did not regret it at all, it was a funny experience.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? All my friends. My best friend almost crashed her car from laughing so hard. Most of the reactions were complete laughter. I was laughing too, it was a shit show!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We both embarrassed ourselves yet felt way too comfortable to even care. It was so casual and fun. I also really enjoyed how consensual it was.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Worst?!? That it really wasn’t the greatest sex, as you could probably tell by now.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me think that anything can happen and that it won’t always be perfect like how you see it in the movies. It’s going to be all over the place, and that is okay. As long as you had fun and stayed safe!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We saw each other out again after 2 months, I slept over at his house but we didn’t engage in sex. It was really odd and I’m not sure why it even happened.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am all for casual sex. I am not ready for commitment and I’m someone who is very emotionally detached. I don’t really like to cuddle or show any sort of pda. I feel like casual sex is something I’m most comfortable with, I chose it on my own will and it makes me happy I’m doing it for myself. I wish society wouldn’t shame it so much especially for women, it really isn’t something that should be shameful.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it is great, you read these stories feeling relieved that you can relate to others alike.

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