by tina

Gender: Female
Age: 33
Race/ethnicity: Latino
Current location: Mexico
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
Occupation: Chemist
Relationship status: Divorced
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Cougar Town

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddy

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? 10 years younger incredible handsome guy. I felt instant chemistry when I met him and I later found out it was mutual. I thought he was one of the handsomest guys I have ever met but I was married at the time we met.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well my marriage ended,  i got separated from my husband and his proyect was about to end. So I thought why not. My marriage ended because of an infidelity of my husband with an older woman I considered uglier than me and I really needed the ego boost. I read almost a 100 websites that talked about or featured advise regarding casual booty calls and cougar relationships. I did my research and ended with an agreement leading up to 40 points. He started pursuing me when he found out I was separating from my husband but I was the one that finally proposed the final arrangement.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? All of the sexual behaviors stated took place. I am very conservative and he has been my only casual sexual encounter. Eventhough he was younger later I found out he had had a long relationship with a sex therapist and was very well versed on a large variety of positions and sexual behaviors everything a guy must know ti please a woman. He was a gentleman very sweet when requiered but I really like domination and tough love and he was amazing. He is the very best lover I have ever had by far. We almost never talked , besides being very well versed in the sexual arts he was very dumb and being young more immature than me. We only got 4 weeks before his project ended and he went to the other side of the country so we knew exactly how much time we got.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had multiple orgasms in every encounter and we did have sexual marathons of about 6 hours of sexual related activity. He was very controled regarding his orgasms by vaginal intercourse but when I performed oral sex he always finished.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used mainly condom during vaginal and anal penetration. I did not use any contraceptive method. On oral sex we did not use anything.

He had himself checked a couple of weeks before our agreement , I thought given my only sexual partner was my husband for the last 6 years and I had a checkup I did not need it.  A couple of months later I went through a complete STD screening and found out I had clamidya but contacted him immediately so that he could get the medication needed.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Basically an ego boost given that he was so handsome , a little revenge. I wanted to find out if this type of relationships suited me given that the formal ones failled miserably. Also I wanted to feel desired by someone that gorgeous but knowing he could not break my heart given that feelings were not involved ;so that I could go out more confident to look for another more suitable partner.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Not alcohol or drugs involved

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup we remain whatsapp friends (no facebook or social sites involved). Thank God he lives on the other side of the country so I don’t fall with his charms again. I do not expect to pursue any romantic or sexual relationship with him. I really appreciate him and think he was the best thing that coukd ever hapen to me after my divorce to help me get on my feet

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Mainly it was a secret. After it ended i talked about it with some gay friends who were very supportive. One female married friend was indiferent. One female friend who lives with a boyfriend was shocked mainly because she was trying to hook me up with a friend of hers that was not convinient for me. After a year I started to talk about him as a recreational purpose relationship without getting into much detail but given that I am very serious and super conservative catholic the majority of people does not believe me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for both on the 40+ point of the agreement an for those 3 weeks monogamous

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No i dont regret it. I will surely do it again and sooner

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was that I got my self assurance back and restored after my marriage ended. Also I gave me the opportunity to try alternative types of sexual encounters. Also I found the most extraordinary lover I have ever had and lerned a lot of what I liked and how to ask for it.

I cannot think of anything negative.

It made my thoughts regarding casual sex change radically. I now strongly recommend it for those times when you cannot fully commit as long as respect security and maturity are always involved. Right now I don’t think I will do it again but this was the best thing that happened to me after my divorce.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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