What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Craigslist encounter in Alaska
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 6’0″ and skinny but fit and slightly muscular. Brown hair, brown eyes and he seemed to be ethnic/foreign, not sure what ethnicity he was. His skin looked permanently tanned. I didn’t know him at all. He responded to my craigslist ad with a body pic. He was hairy and I liked it. I was excited, nervous, and horny.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We sent a few emails. I agreed to host, sent my address. He showed up in his truck. Knocked on my door. I let him in. I instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started as snuggling in underwear in my bed. I went down on him and he penetrated me. We had sex, which finished with me blowing him. He came in my mouth. I did not orgasm, he did.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He continued to email and text me requesting a repeat session, but I largely ignored him. I know I’m good.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. It’s my secret.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? He keeps contacting me for more.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Snuggling
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He was too skinny
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He questioned me during oral, asking “Don’t you have a fag reflex?”.
I do, he was just too small to hit it. Couldn’t tell him that. His persistent questioning was annoying.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m religious and hate how much I enjoy casual sex. I fantasize about casual sex constantly. But I see a therapist weekly. I serve in church weekly and it goes completely against my image.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I don’t know what it is.
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