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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Asexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Biromantic
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Craigslist Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2017

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was in his mid 30s, we met online and met that night, both going into it knowing it was a one time hook up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met online and planned a meeting. I initiated it, telling him I was asexual but wanting the sex experience and not a relationship.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, Vaginal, and Anal. He was very considerate and continuously checking in. I felt okay about all of it, but nothing was that great. We didn’t really talk after, just went our separate ways.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t really feel much of anything. There was a little guilt that I got from my upbringing, but mostly it was just a thing that happened that I didn’t think about much after. We went into the encounter knowing it was a one time thing and I haven’t seen him since, nor do I have the desire to.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Plan B / Emergency contraception

What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Two friends. One was positive, one was negative.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I think most of the regret came from being told since I was a kid that casual sex wasn’t okay, but I moved on from that regret quickly.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting an experience with something and learning more about myself.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The small bit of guilt afterwards

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It confirmed my asexual orientation but also learning that it’s not a big deal overall and doesn’t change your life or who you are.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it would be great if casual sex was more accepted in society just so people could talk more openly about it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is a really interesting project for people to share experiences on that they may not feel comfortable sharing with most people

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!