What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 39
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? usa
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Social Services
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? a month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was very tall and hwp. Cute with dimples. Young face with Euro features. We had never met, just exchanged a few emails that night. I met him down the street from my house. I felt anticipation about being fucked right and a mild concern about being mangled and murdered.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had placed an ad on Craigslist when my plans with my fwb fell through. It was a Friday night. I had hired a babysitter, was shaved, had toys and was ready to party. My guy had fallen asleep and my phone was acting up so I missed his contact and he missed mine. I was annoyed, it was late so I placed an ad saying that was looking for a clean guy who could fuck all night. I asked that they respond with a pic and blurb as I was looking to replace my current FWB. J was one of several respondees to my ad. What stood out was his description of himself ( he sounded very human and sane) and that he liked to use his hands. He was way younger than my normal interests but I figured what the hell? He came over, we chatted for a while, established boundaries and what not and then he began rubbing my leg.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? His hands were amazing. I melted almost immediately. We made out a little and he proceeded to go down on me. His huge hands were fingering me almost the whole time. I squirted all over the couch constantly. I had so many orgasms, I lost count. they were almost continual for long periods of time. When my living room became a wet spot, we went into my bedroom and he threw me onto the bed. We made out very rough, with him biting and sucking my neck and breasts so hard, there were bruises for days. He then arranged me on top of him for a 69. a three-hour long session. It pretty intense, passionate, and absolutely amazing. His penis was small. At first, I was bummed out until I realized I could deep throat him without puking everywhere. Win-win. And with his huge hands everywhere, I squirted literally almost the whole time he put them in or on me. He passed out for about 15 minutes and then we had PiV sex. It was surprisingly good. He was very respectful the entire time and very careful because he is so much bigger than I am. He was an amazing lover. We talked about our interests, our sexual desires, craigslist, island life and dating. It ended in the morning, when I had to go. We had sex right up until my alarm went off and then we jumped in the shower, got dressed and went our separate ways.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt very pleased with myself and lucky that it went so well. I had established initially that I had no expectations of him relationship-wise. I had extended the offer of a possible regular thing if we both enjoyed ourselves. Now, we meet up every weekend and whenever he can get out of work early. I thoroughly enjoy him now. I feel lucky that we get to spend time together and I plan to enjoy him for as long as we can.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my single friend. She was happy for me and amused by his age. I am 16 years older.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Meeting someone who is sexually compatible with me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Don’t know yet.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I have gotten to know myself better sexually.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has played a minimal role in my life up until now. It’s never been my thing. I see it as a necessity in our society for many people. I see it as a way for some to connect and get their needs met. I don’t think it is a negative thing but I do think that people need more comprehensive sex education so they can navigate it in a healthy way.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it. I enjoy reading about people’s experiences.
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